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Signs that tell you he is a real gentleman

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The women who are actively taking part in the dating world may already have a grasp about the various types of men available. There is, of course, the exciting and adventurous “bad boy” guy, a man that you might not want to introduce to your family, but sparks up the romance in every woman. On the other side, there is the “nice guy”, a man who may shower you with carefully chosen flower bouquets or other lavish gifts, but may be kind of bland or even boring when compared to the bad boy. But there is the third type of man, the one that, in reality, every woman is looking for but just doesn't come across so often. He is the true gentleman, the courteous guy who does open the door for you, is especially attentive and is careful about his and your image. He is educated, has excellent manners and knows how to treat a lady to make her feel special at all times.

So, this sounds like the perfect guy, but what are the signs to look for to know if you are dealing with such a man? Do you have the perfect guy already or do you want the perfect guy?

Let's take a closer look to see if he is a real gentleman:

1. A gentleman will look past your looks.

You won't hear compliments or remarks about your different body parts from a true gentleman. This is a quite visible first sign, as almost all men seem to focus on just this side of you, and will likely create awkward situations. Real gentlemen will value you for your intelligence, personality, kindness and your passions or dreams. He will look for those special things that make you beautiful, attractive as a person and feminine, and will not just check if you got lucky in the gene pool.

2. A real man will have interests and hobbies.

This doesn't mean that you will be or feel neglected by his hobbies or personal interests. Instead, this type of man will get you curious about a variety of activities and interests. Moreover, having a guy that has his own life, with passions and interests, means that he will not become clingy, desperate or create his life around a relationship. He already has his own interesting life and the relationship just completes his happiness.

3. He won't feel intimidated by your ambition and success.

It goes without saying that successful or powerful women have it harder in the dating world, just because many men feel uncomfortable with a woman who seems more accomplished than them. However, a true gentleman will never feel ostracized by this, and will be supportive and a powerful, faithful ally to have alongside your dreams and passions. He will be the perfect mate to create the ultimate power couple, thus helping you both to achieve whatever goals you have envisioned.

4. A true gentleman will say exactly what he thinks.

To put it simply, you know you found yourself a gentleman when you know what he wants, because he tells you. He will be direct and there will be no pathetic mind games or sleazy manipulation tactics in your relationship. Honesty is his middle name and he will make it obvious through his actions.

5. A real man will trust you and advise you.

This type of man will not become paranoid about your phone agenda, your messages or your e-mails. He won't try to invade your personal space and will not inquire you about everything that you do. Your privacy is a strict place where just you hold the secret key and he knows it. Furthermore, you will find that he can be a trusted adviser on intimate or sensible issues and won't ask awkward questions. On the other hand, an insecure man will try and destroy your confidence and will ruin the foundation of your relationship.

6. He is calm, responsible and composed at all times.

It's obvious that when going out to a bar or a party, a woman will likely be hit on by other guys. This is a situation where most men fail the test and act like angry gorillas toward other males and may make a scene out of it. The true gentleman however, will make his opinion known and will solve the issue with uttermost tact and diplomacy. You won't have to be a part of a creepy bar brawl, a situation which no woman wants to be a part of. Instead, he already knows that you are his girlfriend, and at the end of the night, you are going home with him.

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