Rage begets more rage, and is self-stimulation for a rageaholic. It’s the compulsive pursuit of repeated episodes to encourage the next episode of rage. The consequences of their rage are of no importance to them. The inability to stop raging episodes once they have begun is a sign of rageaholism. Loss of control is the addiction.
Rageaholics are preoccupied with thoughts of resentment and fantasies of revenge
The mind of a rageaholic is a fertile ground for rage allowing no other thoughts of peace and kindness or gentleness to enter. The force of anger is powerful and followed by actions of revenge. Their preoccupation with what they perceive as the ’wrongs’ of others and revenge keeps them hooked into the loop of rage. They are chronically revenge-oriented.
Anger controls their thoughts
The denial in their addiction is in thinking their anger is working for them to their advantage, along with an ’it’s them’ attitude. The righteous indignation assures the rageaholic by keeping the focus off of himself. Ragers are famous for never saying, “I am wrong or I am sorry.” It is a typical of their thinking for them to feel they are using their rage for some heroic purpose. Drugs and or drinking only compounds the issue making it worse.
Recovery and withdrawal
Just like any addiction the craving to rage has a detox period, and during this time the rageaholic experiences the craving intensely. Breaking the habit is not so difficult but like any addiction requires a time of rehabilitation. For the rageaholic a period of ninety days without to begin with, a period of time without yelling, name-calling, profanity, and bullying and acting on thoughts of revenge is the first step. Bouts of depression for the rageaholic are not uncommon during this time because they don’t feel alive anymore and as if the world is taking them over or “out to get them.”
The second step is to make it for one year without raging
Like any addiction the chance of backsliding and beginning the use of rage again will always be something to watch out for. No one knows when it will happen again who live with the rageaholic and walking on eggshells becomes a way of life. Just as the reageaholic needs counseling or therapy, the people living with a rageaholic, as living with any addicted person, may also need it to learn they are not to blame for the way of the addict. Needing to learn new ways of coping and how not to keep getting sucked back into the loop of turmoil that goes on in the home and in the mind of a rageaholic is just part of what is relearned.
Coping for the family of the addicted
The entire home atmosphere is wrapped around the addiction and the person who is addicted. Family life in the home has been spent making excuses for the rage, living under the thumb of blame, covering up, keeping it a secret from others. Recovery for family members also lies in deciding if living with someone addicted to rage is a way of life they want to continue.
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