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Showing Love to your Children: Quality Time

You’re the parent of a homeschooled child. As such, you are with them for the greater portion of most days. From the moment they wake up until the moment they go to bed, many days, they are in your company. As such, you feel as though you spend more than enough time with your child—but how often is it really quality time?

A child whose love language is quality time, however, may not feel that spending all day every day in your company is “quality,” particularly if you have multiple children and other responsibilities that take up your attention throughout the day. How often do you halfheartedly offer your child a moment or two of your time, only to turn to someone or something else minutes later? How often do you begin to settle down to do something with your child, only to be interrupted by a crying baby, a phone call, or the needs of another child?

This Valentine’s Day, instead of a stuffed animal, or a card, or a sweet treat, consider giving your quality-time-needing child something that will fill their love tank quite a bit more: your time. Make a “date night” for just you and one child. If you’re crunched for time, it may not be possible to do this during the day. You may have to allow them to stay up late one night after your other children are in bed, or take a Saturday or Sunday when your spouse can watch your other children. You may have to procure a babysitter for your other children—but the effort will be well worth it.

Take in a movie. Go for a walk in the park. Go shopping (this is likely more a girl activity than a boy one, though some boys will surprise you!). Spend a few hours with just this child, and take the time to talk—and to really listen to what they have to say. You never know what you might learn during your time together.

It doesn’t have to be on Valentine’s Day, either. A note in a card letting them know that it’s coming will likely be sufficient—but make sure that you follow through. Make all of your necessary plans, complete with a time and a date, and make sure that you’re ready for whatever might come your way—and then just enjoy some time with your child.