In many ways, children whose love language is gifts is the hardest to choose something for on Valentine’s Day. Sure, it sounds easy. Pick up a box of cookies or a few pieces of chocolate. Acquire a fluffy stuffed animal. Maybe find a piece of jewelry for your daughter. There’s just one problem: a child whose love language is gifts, while they will appreciate anything that you choose, will need something more than just an easy-to-grab gift while you’re out at the store anyway.
This is the child who often has the hardest time filling their love tank, especially if you’re on a tight budget. They receive gifts on only rare occasions: birthdays, a handful of holidays throughout the year. Therefore, when you do give your child a gift, you should ensure that it is a gift that is chosen specifically for them.
That means paying attention. Does your daughter love huge, fluffy stuffed animals? Great—then that’s a good choice. Better: is there a particular type or style of jewelry that she’s been wanting? A special treat that she’s asked about several times and been denied? Those are the best types of gifts to give. They don’t necessarily have to be expensive, but it should be something that will have meaning.
Don’t fall into the temptation to just grab something—though of course “something” is better than nothing. Pay attention to your child. Consider his or her likes and dislikes—and realize that a Valentine’s-appropriate gift is not necessarily the only choice. What about a movie that he’s been begging to see, or a book that he’s asked for ever since it came out? Is there a particular game that your entire family would enjoy playing together? It takes a little bit more thought and a little bit more effort, but in the long run, it will make a much more fulfilled child.