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Should you act on feelings you have for someone in another relationship?

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So now you have gone and done it… or should I say your heart has put you in a very uncomfortable position. You have feelings for your best friend’s girl or you have started to show interest in the married man that works in the cubicle down the row. First thing you need to know is you are not alone. The old adage; ‘many people want what they can’t have’ reminds you that you are not alone. It is normal to want something you can’t have; it is one of the instincts that force the human race to be better themselves. If we didn’t want what we couldn’t have we would start to settle for what we do have. When that happens we stop improving as a race.

So now that you know it is perfectly natural to find yourself attracted to other people (whether they are available or not); the question is what do you do about it?

How you react to those feelings is what defines your character; makes you either the ‘champion or betrayer’. If you take a chance and act on those feelings you are in a world of hurt no matter how you look at it. Even if the object of your desire does not act on your advances someone is bound to get hurt. If they do, there are many more consequences to follow.

The sneaking around, the guilty conscience, the lives your actions ruin (there are always others who get hurt besides yourself and the object of your affection) are only the obvious consequences. Think about the lost opportunities. What if your soul mate is walking down the street tomorrow and you are too wrapped up in the web of lies and deceit with this other person to notice? It sounds like the makings of a romance novel but in reality life can really be that cruel.

So if you find yourself in the very common, yet uncomfortable situation of wanting someone who is unavailable to you; do yourself a favor and find a way to move on… find a way to resolve the feelings without acting on them. Keep yourself emotionally available to the opportunities that are around you and keep that person at a slight distance.

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