“Last year, first grade, was OK. This year every day my daughter cries because she has to go to school. I just do not know what to do”.
Many parents are going through the “crying” stage and are frustrated as well as devastated about the unhappiness of their school age child. There are some solutions to this tearful child but there are times when the crying stage will remain until the next semester year. Below are recommendations that will elevate the crying.
• Visit the librarian and ask for children’s books on the difficulties at school. Check out all the books and read one a day. When reading the books allow for a Q&A session which will help you uncover why your child cries when it is time for school.
• As you work to uncover the reason for the tears, tell your child how sad you are that they are unhappy about school and is working on making it better.
• When your child cries do not ignore the tears, acknowledge the tears with kisses, hugs and tears.
• Reassure your child that even though things seem difficult it will get better.
• Once you uncover for reason for the tears, go back to the librarian and ask for children’s book for your child’s situation. Check out all the books and read and read until the tears stop, keep in mind the reading might extend to the semester year.
• If your child takes lunch to school enclose a special note or edible gift that you know your child will love. Let your child know that the gift is to stop the sadness.
• Take some time off and volunteer within your child’s classroom at least once a month.
• If possible eat lunch with your child in school or send someone.
It is never easy when a child cries not to go to school because you know that “going to school” is a must. How heart wrenching when tears come. But be of good cheer, the tears will eventually end.