The sexualization of girls is not new. Adult issues have burdened children since the time of Adam and Eve. It is the internal pressure that comes from experiencing and knowing too much for your own good; before you have acquired the wisdom to know what to do with knowledge of the things in this world.
Understanding sex and sexuality is at the top of the list.
Last month’s Newsweek cover feature addressed the sexualization of the modern girl in an edition entitled, “Sex and the single tween,” citing internet powered media images sexualizing just about everything, including children’s images on board games and story books (think My Little Pony and CandyLand) as well as childhood celebrities like Miley Cirus (now famous for twerking at the 2013 MTV Music Awards) who once upon a time played a sweet, innocent Disney tween who was loved and adored as Hanna Montana.
The author, Abigail Jones, concludes that modern girls are racing to womanhood at earlier ages. She opens up the article with a provocative conversation among 11 and 12 year olds who are all dating and discussing concepts like oral sex and whether boys measure their penis and do women care.
Linda Grondona is a Real Estate Agent serving Granite Bay, with three daughters, two of whom are young adults and one teenager. She wants every girl to know they are not sex objects, even though there is enormous network pressure to become one. “We have a tendency to focus on the symptoms, rather than getting to the root of the problem,” she said. “Girls don’t necessarily know their true identity.”
Grondona is concerned that when we focus on a girl’s sexually provocative behavior issues that stem from not knowing who they really are, we can create more problems driving girls further into the snare of exploitation as they are in pursuit of validation, love and affection.
According to Grondona, there is a balance to strike with our girls. We shouldn’t shield them from too much, and we also need to make an effort to reveal what they know in ways that reinforce their identity as a child of God.
“We need to approach our daughters with a heart of forgiveness and a genuine interest to know what is going through their mind that makes them believe it is okay to be promiscuous,” she said. “Our daughters must be validated at home first.”
To read more about teaching children the safe use of texting and social media, go to: A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media.
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