With busy schedules, work, kids and the zillions of things we have to do each day, creating a romantic encounter for you and your special someone may not seem high on the priority list. But experts agree that couples who regularly carve out time to spend with each other have better communication skills and are generally happier in their relationship. Romance, at least for women in most cases, is not only about how we’re feeling or what we’re wearing, is about our surroundings and environment. Even if we’re wearing the sexiest outfit, it’s difficult to feel romantic in a less-than-appealing setting. Here are a few tips on creating a romantic space that both you and your partner will enjoy during those moments of uninterrupted couples-only time.
First, mold the atmosphere. Romance is created in an open and relaxed atmosphere. Removing distractions that can cause stress or place pressure on the situation is important. This may mean turning phones off, getting a babysitter for children, or putting them to sleep early.
Second, darken the interaction area. Lighting candles, turning down the lights to a low setting or relying on the flicker of flames from a fireplace to light a room can help set a romantic tone. This can provide seduction to a setting which invokes a sultry ambiance.
Stimulate the senses. Incorporating as many of your partner’s senses into the experience will help get them involved. This will make it easier for your partner to invest emotionally into the moment. Enticing food aromas and tastes, fragrant incense, the quiet sounds of nature or soft music can help to further set the romantic mood. Visual stimulation such as decoration, flowers, or even your attire will also add to the experience.
Assume responsibility for setting the mood. While it might be nice if your partner did all the work, you can’t wait on them to make the first move. Think about conversation points and compliments ahead of time. When you are deliberately trying to create a romantic mood, assume responsibility by initiating the interaction. Remember that leaving the situation to fate is not always the best choice.
Get a little closer. Taking some of the personal space out of a situation can help place you in close quarters. This creates an electric atmosphere where magnetism increases the chances of intimacy.