Summer cheaters often use separate vacations to set the stage for having a
summer fling. Photo: istockphoto.com / Nikada
A husband or boyfriend who suddenly suggests taking separate vacations this year, could be setting the stage for a summer fling.
Summer is peak season for infidelity and extramarital affairs. Infidelity increases during the summer months. See Why Men are More Likely than women to Have Summer Flings
Many men who’d never even consider of cheating on their wives and girlfriends at other times of the year, actually look forward to having a summer fling. Separate vacations are usually an integral part of those plans. See Is Your Husband or Boyfriend One of the 3 Types of Men Who Typically Have summer Affairs?
Separate Vacation Schemes Used to Camouflage Summer Affairs.
Below are some of the separate vacation schemes that summer cheaters use to get away from their wives or girlfriends, or remove them fromthe scene so they can indulge themselves in a summer fling.
Summer Homes - Some men routinely send their wife and kids to a time share or vacation home for the summer; or to the lake, the shore, or the mountains for a week or two.
Dream Vacations –Other men surprise their girlfriend with a dream vacation they know she can’t resist.
Extreme Sports or Rugged Outdoor Trips – Some cheating husbands invent fictitious fishing, camping or rafting trips. Men know that even fake outdoor adventures with other men are unlikely to be questioned by the women in their lives.
Counterfeit Conventions and Bogus Business Trips – Men who frequently travel for business sometimes fake an extra trip or two to camouflage a summer affair
Guys-Only Sex Sprees - Many cheating boyfriends take tips with like-minded philanderers for the sole purpose of having summer flings. A group of guys will often visit a hot vacation spot, and sample as many women as possible in the allotted time.
NOTE: See How Cheating Husbands and Cheating Boyfriends Hide a Summer Fling
Safeguarding Your Marriage or Relationship from Summer Infidelity
Not every man who wants to take a separate vacation is laying the groundwork for a summer fling. But it may be wise for you to take steps to safeguard your relationship, while giving your husband or boyfriend the benefit of the doubt. See How 3 Women Discovered their Husbands Were Having a Summer Affair
The key is this – Don’t make it easy for him to cheat. These most men who have summer flings or short term summer affairs are usually not hard-core cheaters. If a summer fling looks like more trouble than it’s worth, most men won’t take the chance.
Here are some preventive measures you can take, while giving your husband ot boyfriend the benefit of the doubt.
• Instead of separate vacations, choose a vacation spot where both of you can participate in activities of you enjoy. Many resorts have programs for children from infants to teens, leaving you and your husband ample time to engage in separate pursuits during the day and still enjoy each other’s company at night.
• Accompany him to summer conventions and conferences, or on summer business trips. Or arrange to meet him there.
• If he really wants an outdoor adventure, look into one of the many kinds of adventure travel vacations for families or couples.
• Stay in the city this year instead of going to your summer home. Send the kids to summer camp. Plan a summer‘s worth of romantic evenings and weekends, or have a summer honeymoon at home.
Free Tip Sheet on How to Spot the Signs of a Summer Fling
To avoid being a victim of summer infidelity, request the FREE Summer Infidelity Tip sheet, so you can familiarize yourself with some of the key signs of a summer infidelity. Send an e-mail to SummerInfidelity@gmail.com with the words “Summer Infidelity Signs - Xm” in the subject line.
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Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com , the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more information about summer flings or summer infidelity, see:
Why Men are More Likely Than Women to Have Summer Flings
How 3 Women Discovered their Husbands Were Having a Summer Affair
How Cheating Husbands and Cheating Boyfriends Hide a Summer Fling
Is Your Husband or Boyfriend One of the 3 Types of Men Who Typically Have summer Affairs?
The Company Picnic Could be the Starting Point for a Workplace Affair
3 Things a Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know
Why the Wife is STILL the Last to Know
Will You be the Next Wife or Girlfriend to Become a Victim of Infidelity? - a Quiz
Why Most Cheaters Don’t Get Caught
What NOT to Do if He's Cheating on You
Is He Cheating? – Is She Cheating? 21 Ways You Can Tell (free tip sheet)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (softcover book)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (e-book version with Affair Recovery information)
Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate
Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports
Comments
According to WHAT nationally respected studies?
Since you have no academic or clinical affiliation where such facts would be checked and double-checked -- who would says, "Infidelity increases during the summer months?"
The last time you told me media outlets have "FACT CHECKERS." Ruth I am a working newspaper journalist and newspaper editors expect the writer to provide links to facts.
Fact checkers are in book publishing. Please tell us the name of your publisher and who checked your facts.
Better yet -- please share the FACTS.
Many thanks/ R
Rita,
Once again, in your eagerness to discredit me, and my work, you’ve shown your ignorance, and lack of skills in certain areas.
I’m a magazine writer, Rita. MAGAZINES have fact checkers. Major magazines require writers to submit documentation of all facts and statistics along with the final manuscript.
As usual, if you can’t find a fact or statistic yourself, you assume it doesn’t exist.
The last time you got bent out of shape because an article of mine contained facts you were unaware of, a reader told you where to find the information.
Anyone with BASIC research skills can find the information. If you’re too busy, too lazy, or too incompetent to find it yourself, you can always hire someone to do it for you.
Your constant attempts to increase your own importance by trying to discredit me, and my work, are disrespectful, unprofessional, and downright pathetic. You seem to be struggling with serious issues of low-self esteem. I suggest you see a therapist.
More Expert Opinions on Summer Infidelity
The 3 experts below agree that there is, indeed, an increase in infidelity during the summer months.
Diana Kirschner, PhD, psychologist, therapist, New York
Daniel Kruger, PhD, evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan at Ann Arbor.
Helen Fisher, PhD Biological Anthropologist, Research Professor and member of the Center for Human Evolution Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University
Check out what these experts have to say about summer infidelity.
Statements from all 3 experts appear in the article entitled Why Guys Cheat in the Summer at the link below:
shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/why-guys-cheat-in-the-summer-1829339
For additional information about summer infidelity, see the other articles in my 5th Summer Infidelity Awareness Campaign. (See the sidebar on this page, or the links at the end of the article above.)
Ruth Houston
National Infidelity Examiner
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