We all tend to accept things about ourselves that are positive and at the same time our tendency is to negate, rationalize and/or not accept the negatives about ourselves. This concept or construct, as we call it in psychology, is called self-acceptance. Some would argue that the healthiest among us is totally self-accepting. Such a person not only accepts their strengths and talents but has objectively assessed their limitations and weak areas and is accepting of them. The person who has this awareness of their limitations and weak areas does not allow such awareness to hinder self-acceptance. They recognize that they are human and fallible in nature and similar to the over 7 billion other human beings on our planet. The notion simply put is to accept self and not the behavior as none of us are perfect and we will continue to make mistakes. Just accept who you are in the here and now.
Why is it good to be self-accepting? It is easier to change the target behavior or limitation if you are accepting of it. If it cannot be changed for some reason then it is healthy to accept it and move on in your life as not everything can be changed. I believe we all have more strengths and talents than limitations and weaknesses. As a visual representation of this dichotomy, sit down and list your positives on the left side of a sheet of paper and your negatives on the right side. Revel in your positives and perhaps decide what negatives you want to change. If you accept yourself as you are, changes will come easier. For example, if you know that you are strongly opinionated and when verbalizing your opinions you regularly alienate others, accept it and perhaps consider making change. Accepting it does not make you a bad human being. It really means that you are human.
We all have a choice to either reinforce our identified positives or our negatives. It’s easy to understand that if we reinforce love, understanding, empathy and joy instead of inappropriate anger, hate and meanness that choosing our strengths is a winner. Life is too short to feed the negatives. Choose to reinforce and feed your strengths because whichever one you choose will win.