Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy! ~Norman Vincent Peale
In his book, Nothing is Impossible, author Tom Oliver shares a fascinating story about actor Robert De Niro preparing for his role in the movie The Last Tycoon. In the film De Niro would play a wealthy and powerful Hollywood studio tycoon.
To prepare for the role De Niro spent several weeks daily walking through Hollywood studios where he would spend hours repeating to himself, “All of this is mine. All of this is mine.” He was creating space in his mind to see himself as the person he would portray, to have his subconscious believe he really was his character, so his portrayal on screen would be authentic and believable.
It was Wayne Dyer who shared, “You will see it when you believe it.”
When you can get an image so fastened in your mind you can harness all your resources to move towards that very outcome, but it must be believable to your mind.
Anthony Robbins has often said the strongest influence in your life is your identity, how you describe yourself to yourself. To change your identity you have to change your beliefs about who you are and what you are able to accomplish.
De Niro used strong visualization and incantations. The reason these don’t work for many people is they don’t believe them when they do them. For De Niro, he literally placed himself on the lots where rich tycoons made their fortunes and told himself he was one of them. That is why it worked.
In like manner, Jack Canfield, who has written the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, available at Cleveland's Staples, shared that he would go to parties where everyone would play a character of the person they dreamed of becoming and the rest of the people were there to support each other’s new identity. They would walk around and tell each other, “Congratulations on your bestselling book, I saw your interview on Oprah, it was outstanding” or “Way to go on your movie, your film won three Oscars!” or, “You look amazing, I can’t believe you lost a hundred pounds!”
As Canfield shared, it was a powerful exercise because it convinced the person they really were the person they desired to be, thus launching themselves towards that ultimate end.
In an interview on marketing, the very successful Eban Pagan shared that when he was first trying to change his identity to become a confident, powerful, successful millionaire, he would put on a Superman cape and picture himself accomplishing great things. Silly, he asked? He then shared, look at the results.
We talk to ourselves all day long, usually about how things are not what they should be or why we don’t deserve things to change. Use some of the strategies that are presented here, and turn your self-talk into your friend instead of your enemy. See the change clearly, then you will believe the change, and in the end you can be the change you desire to see in the world.