Having a child that is diagnosed autistic instinctively I learn as much as I can about autism. At a point in my life before I had children I found a book dated in the mid 70 ‘s. The pictures in the book were in black and white. One picture was of a middle aged man of large to medium build, he had a concerned look on his face yet at the same time it seemed to me he had the look of a deer staring into headlights. The description of the picture was that of an Autistic child only rarely looked into the eyes of an onlooker. The look on the child’s face to me was far off and hard. I remember not being able to tell what color the eyes were of the strangers in the aged black and white picture.
Our second child, a girl now 3 and half had an appointment at a developmental pediatrics office in Latham. My younger child is able to speak lots and lots of words, and form whole sentences, and has quite an amplified personality. Part of what they mean I’m sure is that my younger child will sometimes garble words and not finish sentences. I’m also sure that how the standards in development are set milestones are specific for the age group.
My son, our older child went there for evaluation when that age also. It is hard to tell what he does and does not understand now but he has words and makes requests, he usually repeats what is said when asked a question but shows enthusiasm when told to answer the question of what he wants to do when he grows up. He seems to like the idea of being an animal trainer. This is from watching the nature segments on the “Qubo” channel. My younger child was diagnosed as being a year behind in certain things.
Since eventually we are all dealt the hand of adulthood I can only guess that we begin with all the same feeling and emotions that we essentially have as adults. Hunger boredom pain I really can’t keep track. So look into the eyes of a stranger or a friend and see if they give you eye contact. If they don’t can you trust them wholly, maybe no. Do they trust you enough to give full eye contact? Are their eyes shifty pointing this way and that way?
Some things I picked up in life. Most of our personality traits that are carried through life are developed by age 4. Humans are the only animal that sense whether or not they are really welcomed in this world as newborns. Through any means necessary. Equivalent to the idea “They just know, don’t know how, but they just know!” and probably pretty sensitive about it because they have their whole lives ahead of them, and we as adults should know better than anyone life can throw lots of curve balls and breaker balls our way.
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