"I don't care."
We've all done it. Most of us without even realizing what it is we're doing.
Picture this, you're on the outs with your significant other, they've been getting on your last nerve, and you're out with your 3 closest pals, catching them up on all the exaggerated nit picky details of how you're not being appreciated; and before you know it you're telling them "If 'said person' doesn't care anymore, than neither do I." And what a peaceful notion that is - to think - you can just simply cease to "care" when you feel your worth is threatened. But life doesn't work like that, now does it?
Fast forward a month or so, add in a few more venting sessions with friends, and now you're starting to believe it. You've recited the words to yourself and others so many times that you officially believe that you actually "don't care". Now you stop fighting for the relationship, and you consider all the things your friends have said to you in the last month. All the "You can do so much better"s, the "If he or she really wanted to make it work, then they would", the "Ugh, [he or she] sucks". At this point the real you has stepped out of your body and someone by the name of PRIDE has taken over.
You forget all about how what was really bothering you this whole time is that you guys weren't spending enough time together alone and you think you're going to teach them a lesson. Show them how much they need you. This is where you feel like the holder of all the power. You are in control, right?
Now picture this, you're single and have been out with the same friends, having the same conversations for the last three Saturdays in a row, and you think to yourself, "But, but, but, I wanted to fix it. Not end it."
Well, you should have said just that. When love is on the line people, don't puff out your chest in the ultimate dominance showdown, but rather say what you mean, and mean what you say. You want to work it out? Say so! You want them to appreciate all the things you do for them? Say so! You want them to put down the x box controller and spend more cuddle time? Say so! Mean what you say, and say what you mean.