As we look around at all the demands on our time, it is easy to see how we get so overwhelmed at times. This is especially true for caregivers, as we are living for two. The important part of this to remember is ‘living’.
We frequently see the friends we have had for years doing things that we would like to do, but there is so little time and we are so very tired. Or we see a movie or play, even perhaps a short trip we would like to take; however there is no time for this as we are living for two.
So, many of us were employed and planned our life when it was uncommon to have in home help. Such as a housekeeper or cook, these were of course for the wealthy, today it is far more common and perhaps we should look at that for us. Let’s think about what we do first: As family caregivers we are the stopgap to the free fall of money from our accounts so we provide in-home care for our family member. If we put them in an assisted living or nursing home we would be paying from $3000.00 to $8,500.00 per month, at best. But are we saving this money to a workable end or are we saving it at the loss of two people. A housekeeper or cook could be hired from $500.00 to $1000.00 per month, sometimes less. So, isn’t it possible that we save so little to put so much in jeopardy?