A set routine is always imperative for autistic children since change creates anxiety. A successful technique foris to have a lamintated poster board on the wall as in the picture. For pre-school children pictures can be used. On the left hand side are activities that get done at a specific time. On the right hand side are activities that are optional and can be done if the mandatory activities are completed. As each activity is finished the child can take them down and put them away. Have the child help make his chart so he can be an interactive member of his team and care plan. As a result he can learn to be his own advocate. Along the lines of reducing anxiety is the question on whether or not to talk to your child about his autism.
With Asperger's there is a certain logic in their minds. If your child is communicative it is possible to sit down and talk to them about their care plan and what their disorder involves. Make sure to give him information that is suitable for his age. Letting him get to know children with disorders such as Down's Syndrome helps him see that there are all kinds of different people. Then when you talk to him you can tell him that the only difference between him and other "neuro-typical" children is that his brain is a little different. This is neither good or bad in itself it just means he has to learn different coping skills and different ways of doing things. It also means he is still responsible for his behaviors and needs to learn what set him off. As he learns he can adapt and learn how to cope with events that would normally affect him. Simply saying, "I have autism", is not an excuse for being inconsiderate or unruly. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. What are his and how can he accommodate and cope with them?