In between the Christmas rush and the Valentines gush is a period that can be sparse in the closeness department. The focus of this time is getting our homes back in pre-decorated order, getting post-holiday finances sorted out, and attempting to get back on track so we can prepare for the next 12 months.
Many people feel a letdown or sense of sadness after the holidays. If you count yourself among those who need a pick-me-up in the New Year, reach out to your partner and indulge in activities that will bring you closer. You don’t have to spend a lot of time or money investing in your relationship. All you need is an open mind, adventurous heart, and a few good ideas.
12 days of love notes: Pick up a box of holiday cards (half price after Christmas!) and send one to your partner every day for 12 days. Or make a point of buying a ‘just because’ greeting card once a month for the next 12 months. In each card, tell them something that makes them special to you. Hide the card in their lunch kit, present it at dinner, or put it under the pillow to find at bedtime. Better yet, send each card by post, so they’ll experience the joy of receiving personal mail – something that doesn’t happen often enough these days. It'll be extra special when they realize it's from you.
Dinner for two at home: After all the holiday spending, there’s no need to go to a fancy restaurant in January. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have a special dinner for two at home, at any time of year. Select a date night and mark it on your calendar. Plan for it by purchasing your favourite food, or try a new recipe. Select an affordable bottle of wine, and some decadent desert. If you have kids, send them away for the night. Spend the evening cooking, listening to music, and enjoying a candlelit dinner. Don't forget to use the best dishes and tablecloth.
Get back to nature: It’s hard to find time to go outside when we’re always facing a long list of things ‘to do’ inside. Make a conscious effort once a month to take a walk through your neighbourhood. Break away from the television, bundle up, and venture out. If it’s cold, take along some coffee, tea or hot chocolate. Take a different route each time, winding your way through parks, and exploring trails. Enjoy the surroundings, and each others company. Holding hands is mandatory.