Edgar Cayce is probably the best documented psychic of all time. Of the 14,351 psychic E.C. readings available today as a lexicon of information, perhaps 9,500 of them were offering help for medical challenges. In 1943, a woman asked for help dealing with her bed-ridden husband. She had been caring for him, mostly alone, for the past eight years. It was also implied that the man was difficult to get along with. She wanted to know how best to deal with her husband and the situation. Here is a quote from Cayce on “patience” from that same that reading:
“Taking or enduring hardships, or censure, or idiosyncrasies of others, is not necessarily patience at all. It may become merely that of being a drudge not only to self but an outlet of expression from others that may never be quite satisfying because there is no resistance. (3161-1)”
What a fascinating concept! Resistance is sometimes necessary for there to be satisfaction on the part of those sowing hardship and censure. In other words, when we act out of harmony with God’s kind and gentle ways, we aren’t just selfishly ignoring how difficult we are to be around, we are actually inviting others to “resist” us.
One implication from that Cayce reading is that when we lash out at others, we are actually sending out a subconscious call to force a confrontation. In working our differences out with the people we offend, we are given the opportunity to see a better way to interact with them. It also implies that the patience demonstrated by those who were on the receiving end of the bad behavior should not be passive.
What do you suppose someone with “perfect patience” does when a difficult person confronts them? “Act as if it were not” (832-1) is another relevant Cayce quote, but there seems to be more we can do and still manifest love toward all.
Cayce describes patience as an active attribute of the soul. When the Pharisees tried to back Jesus into a corner to admit violating the law as given in the Torah, His response was not gentle. Jesus called them on their intentions by making it clear that there is a better way to interpret the law.
If we are all God’s beloved children, it makes sense that we should not allow others to abuse us just as we should not abuse others. It is too easy to forget that each of us is His precious child and that to allow ourselves to be needlessly mistreated is allowing the same unkind actions toward our Father.
It is not that we need to be combative with those who would treat us poorly. But we do need to be “wise as serpents yet harmless as doves” when it comes to protecting ourselves and our loved ones. Simply let them know how much you’d appreciate it if they would be kinder in what they say to you. Assure them that you know they mean no offense and that none will be taken now that their manner will improve.
The important thing is to keep a positive, loving attitude toward a difficult person as you offer just the right amount of resistance to their unkind call for help.