So you're in a relationship. Maybe it's a new relationship where you are just getting to know a person. Maybe you are married and already made that commitment. Or perhaps you are in the serious dating stages where you wonder if this person in the real deal and should you take the next step and move in together? What signs do you need to tell you that this person has long-term staying power?
Here are 5 signs that you chose the right person:
1. You can be yourself. It sounds like a cliche, but you need to be able to be yourself in front of your partner; warts and all. You never have to impress the right person because they love you for just being you, whether you are dressed to the nines or sick with the flu. They love you no matter what.
2. You argue. What? Stay with me here! Say you have two couples. One argues and the other couple never has a single conflict. Which of the two is at greater risk for splitting? The couple who never argues! Hear me out- The first couple makes it a point to bring up topics that need to be addressed and resolved. They work through any issues. (all relationships have issues, let's be real). The second couple isn't forthcoming about their conflicts and instead ignores them. Their needs and wants may not be met and this goes unresolved. Over time, this will likely lead to a split. So resolve issues in a healthy way. Fight fair, admit if you are wrong and move on. Constant drama isn't healthy either.
3. You have similar life priorities. Not saying you have the same hobbies, or that you are carbon copies of one another. Having the same life priorities means having similar long-term goals. Do you both want kids? Both want to live in a house by the sea? Both want to travel or retire to Bermuda? Do you agree on where you want to live? If these bigger issues are in line, this is a great sign that this person is the one for you.
4. You respect one another. Mutual respect is important. If you respect each other, your relationship has a strong chance of surviving. If you respect the person you are with, communication is good and the commitment deepens. The trust is there and so is the satisfaction level.
5. You are stubborn. Wait...how does that make sense? How is being stubborn a healthy trait in a romantic relationship? If you and your partner are stubborn about staying together and refuse to let all of life's annoyances break you, then there's a good chance that your relationship is the real deal. Do you both stand firm in your commitment to one another? Are you both stubborn that way? Do you refuse to let your relationship crumble? Let's face it, real, long-term relationships are work. If you both remain committed, this is a great sign!
"Relationships are constantly changing. We age, grow, learn, get sick, get well, gain weight, lose weight, find new interests, and drop old ones. And when two individuals are constantly in flux, their relationship must be fluid to survive! Many people fear that if their love is free to change, it will vanish. The opposite is true. A love that is allowed to adapt to new circumstances is virtually indestructible. Infatuation relaxes into calm companionship, then flares again as we see new things to love about each other." ~Martha Beck. Oprah.com
Be your true selves, and build a relationship that is satisfying, lasting, and altogether delicious.