Let’s face it, not every couple has the right answers when it comes to relationship do’s and don’ts. What I call relation-slips can happen to anyone. Even if you’re the loyal, faithful type sometimes it’s in your words where you slip. As if getting through the early stages of dating without blowing it isn't enough, things don't get any easier from there on. A million things can still collide with an otherwise solid relationship and leave a couple wrenched in two.
Of course, many of these problems can be worked through, but deciding to deal with any relationship killers requires careful thought as to whether the relationship is worth the trouble or not. Sometimes, despite all the hard work getting there, it's best to just cut your losses and move on, but you are married that’s not easy.
No one can list all the potential things that can screw up the course of true love, but we can give you a heads up on the most likely causes of coupledom death with these top relationship killers. A massive part of your life is made up of your friends and family and, like it or not, the same goes for her.
So, not getting along with the other people who share your partner's life can push any marriage to its breaking point. It’s impossible to love everyone he or she knows, but maintaining “friendly” relationships with the closest people in her life (like her sister and best friend) is important in keeping your own relationship afloat.
Often, being part of a marriage can put you in a “bubble” that closes you off from the rest of the world, giving you an (us-against-them mentality). However, when the real world comes crashing into your little bubble, things can go really wrong. Issues like money problems, children from previous relationships, and issues carried over from past relationships are possible relationship killers that might place strain on you.
Even little domestic issues (one person refusing to clean or cook) can chip away at your coupledom. A couple is, by definition, made up of two people. Throw a third person into the mix and things will start to go wrong. If someone else if trying to get with you or your other half, distrust and suspicion can breed quite easily and can be a serious relationship killer. The effect of this is increased if the “other person” is a lingering ex.
If the issue should arise, deal with it as quickly as possible. If you're the one with the admirer, simply tell him or her you're not interested; being friendly with them could give them hope and permission to stick around longer and toy with your current relationship. We already know you can't like everyone all the time. Well, sometimes this counts for your partner too.
Everything about him might be great, but if he has a few annoying habits, be careful. Stupid and trivial as these annoying habits might be; like talking in his sleep, leaving the cap off the toothpaste and leaving the toilet seat up, they can be relationship killers and wreck a couple. And of course we cannot have this conversation without talking about sex. I know, I just had to go there.
After being together for a while, couples tend to grow comfortable with each other…way too comfortable. They become more like friends than lovers as intimacy becomes way too familiar and routine, and they start to let things slide. Sex falls off the agenda and, before they know it, they've just simply become the person stopping the other one from dating someone else. Yes sex is important but it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker.
Guys…learn other means of being intimate. Yes they exist and yes you should know them whether you have lots of sex or not. Healthy relationships/marriages progress naturally. While not always at the same speed, they tend to move on as both people become more and more comfortable with each other.
It's an unspoken, instinctive thing. However, some people seem to lack this instinct and rush to make a blossoming relationship into something it's not ready to be. So have fun but, slow your roll. Sometimes rushing things can be first and last relation-slip.
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