I have a friend who worked with me at a firm a few years ago. Whenever we get together we commiserate on how it was to work there. It’s the kind of company where a lot of people have worked at some time or another. It has a particular culture, one that is not very accommodating or friendly. Certain functions are consistently overhauled, turned over and restructured, but it all never seems to come to much, the company keeps churning up people.
We were sharing this with a person who was interviewing at the same company, we tried to give the real picture with the disclaimer, the company is successful, they make money despite their poor treatment of employees, and so if you can go there with psychological armor on you and withstand the pressure, you might just have a successful experience and learn a lot.
Doesn’t seem the best way to earn a living but then sometimes we don’t have the choice. So how can you make sure you preserve the inner core of your brand while being subjected to less than optimal work experiences? How can you deal in a challenging, tough environment?
In her recent book, “Making Difficult People Disappear”, Monica Wofford uses a fable to help us identify how to deal with the people we have determined are difficult. It’s a wonderful way to get your head around this kind of everyday stress. Everyone is different, they are really not meaning to be difficult, but maybe we have to figure out better ways to deal with them. Monica is a speaker and coach, assisting companies with transformation through a method identified as CORE. Like other psychometric tools, you take a quiz and come up with a profile, Commander, Organizer, Relater and Entertainer (hence CORE) and this helps you not only understand yourself, but others. From that understanding you can start changing the way you are dealing with others and possibly make things easier for yourself. Maybe you won’t make the difficult people disappear, but they will become less difficult by utilizing this method.
It all goes to underline how much knowing what we are in relation to others can be useful in being successful in business and in life. Most of what we are doing is with others. Much as we might like to be on our own isolated, we cannot. No man or woman is an island, and cultivating those interrelationships with others is a key factor in reducing stress and getting things done. A look at our current government quagmire certainly proves this point. If these politicians could find that way of interacting which would lead to some kind of compromise, we would all be resting a lot easier. Think of the stress that is caused by this situation. So too we should search our inner selves and understand better what would lead us to successfully interact with the world at large. Have you notice what kind words and courtesy can do in any interaction, it becomes easier. Your personal brand should have that allure of easy interrelationship with others; you become the ‘go-to’ person because they know that you will welcome the questions, the requests. In this way you can succeed in creating a new kind of armor, that of human openness and acceptance both of yourself and others.