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Reflections on how to deal with suicide, the most difficult death

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Ever since the word came out a week ago that Robin Williams killed himself, it's become apparent how powerfully the entire world has been effected. There is a powerful ripple effect going on throughout the world as we face the reality that a man so well loved and sought after has died. Not only that, he hung himself due to some deep pain that had taken root in his life.

In my first book, The Last Adventure of Life: Inspiring Approaches to Living and Dying, Ijust a little bit about the challenges of the aftermath of suicide. It is no easy task to face the anger, guilt, and other emotional challenges that face people who have been left after a suicide. Here's what I share and what I still feel holds true in these circumstances:

"Sometimes, things cannot be resolved in this lifetime, and people die under very challenging circumstances. At times, families and loved ones have to deal with suicidal deaths. Such moments are some of the most difficult to live with afterward. Author and medium James Van Praagh suggests in his book Talking to Heaven (Van Praagh 1997) that our thoughts and prayers are the best way to get through to such spirits. First of all, we can send thoughts to those who have committed suicide to remind them to “stop wasting their energy by trying to get back into the physical world. They must realize that they have passed out of the physical body.” (page 103) Our thoughts are the only way we can communicate with those who have left the earth, and apparently in some cases of suicide, as sometimes in other sudden deaths, the victim does not realize that they have actually died and left their physical vehicle behind. Secondly, we can send them thoughts of love, peace, joy, forgiveness, and light. We can help to bring comfort to their spirits and allow them to become more aware of their new situation.

"I have learned that visualizing the violet flame encompassing all things purifies them. You might imagine sending or placing the purifying violet flame around the soul of your loved one. Or you could visualize any negativity, either your own or your loved one’s, in the violet flame, allowing the negativity to purify and dissolve into pure white light. You could also envision taking your loved one to a beautiful place, like a magnificent garden, or beautiful healing waters where they can bathe, or someplace where you know they will find peace and comfort. You can then imagine them in this peaceful spot whenever you think of them, knowing and trusting that they, too, can and will find deep peace over time.

"Most of all, it’s important that the surviving loved ones not blame themselves for what happened, or keep pondering the 'what if' scenarios, or second-guessing why the death occurred in the way that it did. Even though guilt is almost unavoidable after a suicide, it is a crippling emotion, and it robs people of their confidence. So by all means, find creative ways to release any guilt you might be carrying around because of the suicide of a loved one. What has happened cannot be changed, and it is not your fault. Let go of the past, and move into the future with abiding confidence and love; this is what your loved one would want for you, too." (p. 94, The Last Adventure of Life)

Another self-clearing method that can help at times like these is Ho'oponopono. It is a self-forgiveness technique that I wrote an article about here earlier this year. I encourage you to find out more about this ancient Polynesian technique of clearing and healing yourself, if you haven't heard about it yet.

Also, I do energy healing work that is very helpful in removing negative emotions and mental patterns. Please contact me directly if you'd like to find out more or if you may be interested in having a session with me. Long distance sessions are possible, too.

Our thoughts and prayers go out to his wife Susan Schneider and his children, Zak, Zelda, and Cody.

To our Health, Wealth, and graceful Awakening, Maria Dancing Heart~~~~

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