While driving in my car this morning and listening to KLOS radio station they were having a discussion on censorship of pornography as well as the impact of pornography on marriage.
As a clinical sexologist and marriage counselor I have a different view on the topic of porn than most people, because of my profession.
I will start off by saying that pornography is not a substitute for sex in a marriage, if it is used to enhance the marriage and watched together it can add to the erotic nature of the sex play.
Censorship of porn will not stop people from seeking out porn. When the internet allowed pornography to be shown freely the acts of sexually violent crimes went down, not up, as people may think. Take away this outlet and there may be a serious rise in violent sexual crimes committed. A study was done on the incidence of violent sexual crimes dropping when pornography was allowed to be openly viewed on the internet.
Porn should be used as a treat not as as meal, meaning used in moderation it can add to the pleasure of masturbation or couples sex play. Porn used as a drug or when it creates a problem for a person in life, they need to learn how to manage it just as managing drinking alcohol, or get help for the addiction. Allowing the censorship of porn to take over is not going to help the people who truly have a problem or are addicted to it, but it will take away a pleasure that many people use as a healthy outlet for stress or to control deviant sexual behaviors.
Five ways to help control the overuse of pornography in a persons life
1. Get help from a sex therapist and learn how to manage the use of porn.
2. Watch porn as a treat rather then make it a routine in your life.
3. Never substitute porn for healthy sexual interaction with your wife or partner.
4. When you feel like you are getting to extreme in what you are watching stop for awhile and get help if needed.
5. If you enjoy a sexual scene in porn and are married ask your partner to watch it with you or do a role play and have fun with it.
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