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Reasons why a husband or a wife may not want to have sex with their spouse

This should be on the national epidemics list…. 

All joking aside this is no joke at all, and to say that it is not an epidemic would be false as well because in many ways it is.  The truth about this “epidemic of sexless marriage” is that many couples don’t talk about sex in marriage.  This  problem affects both men and women.  There are many marriages where the woman wants to be intimate with her husband and he is not interested, but that is definitely not something that people talk about. 

A man can say in a joke say to his buddies oh “my wife is not putting out tonight”, and he will probably get a laugh or at least a little sympathy.  For a woman though she often times will not tell anyone about her situation. 

One article that I wrote with comments from women is heatbreaking. 

 Reasons Why A Husband Does Not Want To Have Sex With His Wife
The majority of the time we hear from men that their wives are not interested in sex or that they complain of the frequency, but what happens when that is n...

Ten reasons why a husband or wife does not want to have sex in the marriage.

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  • 1. Stress is one of the biggest sex killers for men, more so than women.
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  • 2. A new child, or children
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  • 3. Boredom, the sex gets boring and neither one of the spouses wants to do anything about it.
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  • 4. Lack of communication surrounding sex
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  • 5. Not experienced sexually
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  • 6. Sexual health issues
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  • 7. Lack of orgasm
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  • 8. Past relationship abuse/or childhood abuse
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  • 9. Homosexuality
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  • 10. No longer attracted to spouse
  • These are the top ten reasons why married couples don’t have sex in the relationship. 

    How to fix these problems is a little more complex.  The first step is to figure out with your spouse where the two of you may fit into the equation, then begin to open the lines of communication.  The only way that the sex in a marriage will get better is to communicate openly with one another.  This may lead to better sex in the marriage or it may help to end a bad marriage, either way the couple is moving forward. 

    Look ahead for the next article in this 5 part series on Sex and Marriage

    , LA Love and Marriage Examiner

    Dawn Michael M.A Sex Therapist and Relationship Coach is passionate about helping couples and individuals to have better sex in their lives. Dawn has a B.A. degree in speech communication, an M.A. in marriage and family therapy and is a certified clinical sexologist. Dawn's counsels couples as...

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