Reality TV show influence: Love & Hip Hop behavior won't find you love

With the overflow of reality tv shows lately, everyone seems to be enjoying their fill of drama. Whether being entertained by someone else's or getting a fair share of their own, drama has become extremely common. Women and men praise the women of shows such as "Love and Hip Hop", "Real Housewives" and "Basketball Wives", for fighting, throwing drinks at each other, calling everyone "non factors",cursing everyone out, and "shaking tables". Relationship troubles and love triangles are magnified both on tv and online. Drama makes for good television, but does it make for good relationships?

Everywhere you look online, there are many men that gush about how sexy this and that reality tv star is, and how'd they "wife" them or sleep with them in a heartbeat. Never mind the fact that the ones they speak of are building income by degrading themselves, and sometimes a whole race. They are deemed as great options despite all the mess they stir up. However, these same men will take to their own social platforms and proclaim they want drama free women. It is clear that most men like drama from a distance, and the drama you maintain will keep you alone and unhappy, like most of these women on these shows.

On the flipside you have women watching these shows, and the rewarding of the drama in them by higher ratings, higher income, and more "fame". This is influencing some women to believe that being "bat shit crazy" is the new attractive. So they begin publicizing their own drama and creating chaos in hopes that their shenanigans will pay off in some way. They aspire to have the "fabulous" lifestyles, wardrobes, and options of men that these reality tv women have.Ladies, the behavior you are obsessed with on the tv screen may be entertaining, but it will not find you the happiness, nor the love you truly desire. The drama you subject yourself to on certain nights of reality tv shows will not get you far in your own reality. No one wants constant chaos and tension in their everyday living. It's not attractive, and it pushes people away from you. Love and chaos has never been a good mix. If a relationship has more unhappy moments and arguing than it does worthwhile moments, then what good is it to be in that relationship? It's time to stop living in admiration of reality tv starlets and start addressing your own reality, if you want to one day have something real.

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, Jacksonville Single Women Examiner

Karlicia Lewis is a wearer of many hats. Although she heads clothing company Couture Reign as CEO, she also is a mother of one, student, mental health counselor, and writer. She pens the blog "There's no Crying in Love", as well as other blogs, including fashion related sites, such as her column...

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