Tonight's Bravo episode of "Real Housewives of New Jersey" was titled "Horse Whisper to a Scream." As the episode opens, they are together at Melissa’s birthday vacation at Miraval resort, but even Joe Gorga did not know exactly how intense the revelations would be. As he talks to his wife, who has been sick, she tells him that she just wants to sit by the pool in a bikini and have a drink, not participate in the intensities of the program.
They all have an appointment to meet with a horse healer. This is a different presentation, and the man responsible tells them they will not be riding a horse today. As they sit around a corral, Wyatt Webb, equine expert is the man in charge of this presentation along with his horse. Wyatt has been a therapist for 33-years and Chris is his first volunteer. He shows him how to clean his hoof, and relates that the house only responds to one thing; authenticity. Chris performs the act once again with total cooperation from the horse. As the rest of the gang looks on, they are surprised at the ease Chris has in doing this. Wyatt tells them that Chris was not guarded at all, and did not fear having the horse do anything but cooperate. This entire process made believers out of the rest of the group. Caroline and Rosie loved it because it recognized who you are inside and pulled no punches.
When Richie made a joke, that Wyatt is a genius who gets people to clean his horses, Jacqueline said he was a smart-ass. Wyatt retorted that Richie makes jokes, so he does not have to pay attention to how he feels. Nailed it! The entire group was eating out of his hand after that statement. Rosie was next, and Wyatt asked what her story was? She hesitated, but revealed that she did not feel good enough at times. She cried, as did most of the group. She had been feeling inadequate for most of her life. He told her that by volunteering to come there, she most certainly was good enough. He told her that the horse did not give a damn what her title was, or anything else about her. Sure enough, the horse responded to her immediately. She revealed that in Italian families, you grew up, got married and had kids. This is not her situation, and she wonders if she does not deserve to be happy. Melissa was next; she took two different approaches walking beside the horse, as Wyatt stopped her and asked if she put everyone’s need before her own? As Melissa tried again to perform the task, Joe Gorga was giving her tips from the peanut gallery. Wyatt mentioned that by helping sometimes, does not give a person confidence in themself. He told her to ask for help, she chose her husband, then he tried to do it, and he admitted he was scared. He called on his sister, who could not do it either and ran to sit down. Caroline knew that the task was to challenge yourself in front of other people, she was surprised that neither sister-in-law could open up.
Richie and Kathy were called upon next. Just as they were going up there, Joe Giudice walked away, looking at his cell phone. As Richie tried to lift the horse’s leg, it did not happen. Then he let out a few choice words. However, Wyatt recognized that he has a lot of rage inside that is projected upon Kathy, who then just cries. He handed her the tool, and she did the task. He gave her kudos for doing something that few could only do, and yet he told her he was sad because she was not happy for herself. Richie saw that when Kathy implodes, he ignores her emotions and she has become accustomed to letting her triumphs fall unnoticed. Although the Giudices were talking to their daughter, Wyatt told them to turn off the cell phones.
Jacqueline was next; she was very emotional, but did the deed. Then Teresa went a gave her a hug, which Chris remembers as the best part of their friendship. Joe Giudice was next; he admitted to being tired and a bit hung over, but stepped up to the horse, but he moved as Joe went to grab his leg. Joe was ready to sit back down, but Wyatt stopped him and asked him what he is scared of? He said everyone has a bit of fear inside them; but Wyatt wanted to know what his fear was? He mentioned a little issue he was dealing with right now, meaning the motor vehicle problem with charges pending.
Joe Gorga was shocked that he brought up those legal issues and Wyatt told him that by acknowledging fear, it stops having power over you. Then he went to the horse and lifted his leg and cleaned his hoof. Amazing, in just one action, he smiled and felt happy again.
Then it was Caroline and Albert’s turn. Wyatt asked Albert to tell him one thing that was awesome about him. He related that he has done extremely well against adverse circumstances. Wyatt looked into Albert’s eyes and then asked him if he was emotionally abused? Caroline knew that Albert’s father was very strict and extreme. Caroline said that Albert was her heart, when he is sad, she could die. Then she went right over and cleaned the horse’s hoof. Chris has never known this side of Albert, who usually does not open up. He agreed that anyone who thinks that the spirituality of the place is baloney, should think again. Wyatt left them all with a few words; the more vulnerable you can be … the better.
As they discussed the happenings of the afternoon, the only two people who did not seem to get it, were Melissa and Teresa, who would not let their guard down. Caroline agrees that they are much too superficial.
Chris and Jacqueline had a talk, and he asked her why she was crying during the horse episode, and he asked her if she was afraid to get kicked by the proverbial horse.
In their room, Teresa and Joe had a pool there they frolicked, but talked about their fears. Joe knows that he is not a criminal and does not want to lose his wife and kids. Right now, they just both miss their girls.
That night, they all got to witness a Navajo ceremony where they all beat on drums and came together in unison and met another culture. After the ceremony, Jacqueline and Teresa had a heart-to-heart and burning ceremony, to write things down and burn them and forget them. Jacqueline pointed out the comment about bad things coming back to hurt your children and Teresa made it clear that it was only meant for her kids. They wrote their fears and grew their friendship again.
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