Nobody fights harder and more viciously than siblings do. They know the exact buttons to push, because they've been privy to every embarrassing moment and have first hand knowledge of every insecurity.
“Siblings that say they never fight are most definitely hiding something” -Lemony Snicket
Real friends fight, too. They may not fight as viciously (thankfully), but they, too, are privy to every insecurity and embarrassing moment. Most of the time friends have even more ammo, because they are the chosen confidante and sounding board.
Edna Buchanan said, “Friends are the family we choose for ourselves," which makes total sense. Real relationships require the type of honesty that only occurs with an innate level of trust, trust that is generally reserved for family. So even when the words hurt, this trust is there to soften the blow.
"Sisters annoy, interfere, criticize. Indulge in monumental sulks, in huffs, in snide remarks. Borrow. Break. Monopolize the bathroom. Are always underfoot. But if catastrophe should strike, sisters are there. Defending you against all comers." -Pam Brown
Real friends are like sisters or brothers, because all the false pretenses are gone. Real friends realize that fighting will happen and that fighting is ok, because it's impossible for two people to agree all the time.
What do you do if you're fighting with your friend?
The same thing you would do if you're fighting with your sibling. Be pissed about it and keep your distance for a little bit until you cool off and can approach the topic with a level head and a dulled tongue.
Friendship can be stronger than even blood, but nothing is stronger than memory. Actions and words hurt, so be sure the message being delivered isn't one that will inevitably shatter the trust.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those that mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
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