When we decide to become a parent, we don't spend a lot of time thinking about the actual day to day life we will have once we become a parent. Furthermore, we don't factor in the support networks of family, and/or friends that may or may not exist in our day to day lives.
It remains a mystery why we don't need some sort of prep course in order to be "fit" to become parents. Think about the fact that we could never drive a car, pilot a plane, or chart a boat without a license to do such. Yet, to parent a child, we don't need a course, a license, or even so much as a conversation about the how to as well as the whats next.
Taking this one step further, how do we determine the optimum environment to raise our child in should we exist in a family where there are two Mommies, two Daddies, one parent, or just plain unconventional in make up? Would it be wise to seek out advice, perhaps study developmental stages of children prior to entering into this stage of a persons life? Just a thought, or maybe something more-conscious living?
Regardless of where you come from, where you hope to go, and when you might want to be there, planning is essential to overall success. Approaching parenting with anything less than a well thought out plan is like jumping out of a plane without a parachute. At the least, walking a tightrope without a net to catch you if you fall.
In NYC there are many resources for families, and families to be to tap into. Avail yourselves of the many diverse groups that you can find by searching the following web sites: http://www.gaycenter.org/ http://www.opencenter.org/ http://newyork.timeout.com/ http://newyorkfamily.com/newyork/Once you have connected you will be better equip to go forward with the confidence you are not alone in this big city.