Quiz: 10 Ways to Spot a True Friend
by Angela V. Woodhull, Ph.D.
Check off the statements that you truly believe apply to your friend.
She’s OK with showing both positive and negative emotions around me.
I wouldn't hesitate to tell me my biggest secret. There’s no way she’d ever tell anyone.
I’ve never suspected that she’s gossiped about me or told others my secrets.
She’s totally willing to spend time with me. I never feel like she bails on me to spend time with other people.
Our fights never last very long. One of us always calls the other to smooth things over.
She doesn’t mind doing favors for me. If I’m truly stuck in a jam, I know I can count on her to help me out.
If I wanted to try out for a team or run for student government – or some other totally competitive thing – she would be behind me 100 percent, cheering me on.
When I’m in a bad mood, she doesn’t make me feel bad about being depressed. In fact, she’ll just sit with me and talk it out until I feel better on my own.
When we get together, we don’t have to do anything spectacular. Most of the time, we just sit around and gab.
She hardly ever hides her feelings from me. When she’s happy, happy, sad, mad, whatever, I know about it.
She respects my stuff – like, she’d never borrow money or clothes and not return them.
If people were dishing dirt about me, my friend would definitely stand up for me and defend me.
She’s a good listener. If I’m talking, she won’t interrupt and take over the spotlight with a story about herself or a bunch of advice I didn’t ask for.
How many did you check?
If you checked zero to four: FRIENDLY ACQUAINTANCE
Looks like you need to take a second look at this so-called friendship. Your answers show that your friend doesn’t treat you the way a “best friend” should. Are you sure you’re not doing all the work? Maybe you should start looking around for a new best friend.
If you checked five to eight: JUST A FRIEND
For the most part, you’ve snagged a good friend. But you guys aren’t quite at the soul-mate level. Do you find that whenever you get together, you’ve got to be going somewhere, doing something? True friends can just chill and relax together. When you’ve got quiet time together, it’s easier to get to know the delights of your friend’s personality. Give it a try!
If you checked nine to 13: BEST FRIEND
Hold on tight – this is a keeper! She respects you, listens to you, and genuinely enjoys your company. Now, if only we could clone your bests bud and have one for ourselves . . . .
Angela V. Woodhull, Ph.D. is the author of The New Time Manager, Coping With Difficult Teachers, Easy Words: An Easy Way to Learn New Words, Private Investigation Strategies and Techniques, Police Communication in Traffic Stops, and the Broadway-style musical, “Remember Idora.” Dr. Woodhull is available for consultations, in-house training, seminars, retreats, speaking engagements, and private investigation services. Dr. Woodhull can be reached at (352) 327-3665.