Quickie! The quicker picker upper

Has your sex life become boring and monotonous? Are you and your Beloved settled into the same ole tired sex routine? Is the once spontaneous, impulsive, passionate and animalistic sex life that you once had gone with the wind and so far out of view you can’t remember what it’s like to feel that tingling sensation in your body? If this sounds like your relationship, then you are definitely in need of a quicker picker upper, and what better way to get the momentum going again than with a quickie? A quickie is an excellent way to connect with your Beloved while boosting your libido and saying goodbye to the dreadful sex rut. If you’re ready to set fire to the flame of your sex life and ignite the undeniable passion between you and your lover, following some of the suggestions below can help get you kindle the spark in no time!

Build Anticipation! The thrill of a quickie can be an incredible turn-on and the levels of arousal built up throughout the day will make that ultimate release extremely satisfying for the both of you. Adrenaline pumping, heart pounding, tension and excitement definitely helps to get you in the mood ! Try building anticipation throughout the day by sending a steamy sex message, email or call. Be creative and imaginative! Leave a pair of your sexiest undies in his brief case, glove box or visible location in the car with a handwritten note attached that states something flirty like “I won’t be wearing these when you see me later.” The blood will definitely rush straight to his other head; giving you both something to look forward too!

Location, location, location! Select a location that is easy and accessible but not too public, after all public sex may be stimulating but it is illegal. Perhaps if you’re feeling really daring and flexible revert back to your teenage years of the parked car! Add a sexy new twist to cooking in the kitchen! Get really steamy together in the shower together. Or even sweeten up dessert just a bit by adding a little whipped cream to her cherry! Quickie Tip: Other great locations include: elevator, secluded park, dark movie theatre, dressing room or rooftop.

Lubrication is very important! Although women lubricate natural, it may take a little longer for her natural waters to begin flowing. With quickie, however, there’s not a lot of on the spot foreplay and you don’t have that time for the vaginal to expand and lubricate. Keeping a water-based or silicone-based lubricant handy will do the trick. i.e. glove box, side of sofa, kitchen draw or in purse. Adding lubricant, especially those formulate for women, speeds up the female arousal process and make it much easier for penetration. Also, building the anticipation throughout the day will help to get her ready for play.

Easy on, easy off! The outfit is definitely important, especially when you’re pressed for time. Be sure to wear something that offers easy access to the “goodies.” The less time spent on removing clothing, the more time there is for loving! Quickie tip: short skirts or dresses do the trick every time!

Play your position! Any position that allows easy, quick access and hits all the right spots are the best! Quickie Tip: Standing positions are adventurous and great for quickies.

No shame in your game! We were created as sexual beings so the urge to have sex is natural! Don’t be ashamed to let it all hang out, literally and figuratively, with your Beloved. Unabashedly shower each other with kisses! Use your hands and/or tongue to trace to each and every inch of their body. Allow lust to guide you on an uncanny journey into eroticism that the both of you will never forget!

Carpe Diem! Life rarely affords us the opportunity for perfect circumstances or opportunity for sex, so don’t spend your life waiting for a moment that may never come. Sometimes an unorchestrated intense sex session is just what you need! Quickies aren’t about setting the mood, the perfect lighting, and position! It’s immediate! It’s raw, pure and intense! Waiting until you are both horny, not tired, the kids are good, the mood is right and you both have all the energy in the world may not be realistic. Take the opportunity and seize the moment! Give in to the spontaneity of sex.

While a quickie can offer an immediate “fix” to jump starting your otherwise seemingly deaden sex life, a truly great sex life doesn’t just happen like in the movies! It takes work and deserves just as much effort as every other area of your life. At the end of the day, always remember that it is essential for you and your Beloved to maintain that intimate, emotional, passionate, powerful and spiritual connection that sex can provide! Don’t allow your sex life to become a “maybe” or “if I get around to it!” Rip each other’s clothes off! Don’t’ worry about how your hair or body looks! Moan loudly! Breathe deeply! Hold each other tightly like your lives depend on it! But most of all live in the moment! Carpe Diem!

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At the age of 13, TaMara told her mother that she wanted to be a Sex Therapist. Over the past 20 years, she has devoted her life to empowering individuals with the knowledge, skills and tools to make safer and healthier decisions regarding their sexuality. TaMara is a certified sex therapist,...

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