Q: Every time our son is grounded to his room, he suddenly has to use the restroom every 5 minutes. So we put him on a bathroom schedule of every 2 hours. Well, the other day, he urinated on the floor in the corner of his room! When asked why he did that, he said because he couldn't hold it anymore. What do you suggest we do in this situation?
A: Okay, the first thing that you need to do is abandon that "bathroom schedule". You never want to cause medical problems by forcing a child to hold their urine. Although he has a history of manipulation in this area, it's just not worth the risks. What I want you to do instead is to simply tell him that he may PURCHASE his bathroom breaks at a rate of 10 extra minutes for each 5 minute break that he takes during his timeout in his room. He doesn't have to be a mathematician to do the math and see that it's not worth it and that he should abandon this behavior that is either manipulation or poor toilet timing. But to prevent him from acting too cheap to make the purchase, inform him that another incident of urinating on his carpet will get him an extra 2 hours grounded in his room. And make him scrub that carpet! That way he'll go ahead and make the responsible choice.
Thank you for your question and do take care.