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Putting trust into trust

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rock solid trust

It goes without saying that issues such as trust play a tremendous role in relationships; mainly in illustrating their success or failure. However, how many people actually take that into deep consideration? How many people realize its true meaning, and importance? When looking into the relationships of friends, family etc., it seems a lot less focus is spent on the matter then truly should be.

According to Dr. Stephen R. Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, "The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are". To really understand this quote in relation to trust, you much first understand that trust is not something you merely attain, but in actuality, it is a trait that a person either does or does not possess.

We have all had our run-ins with those who are either too trusting, or the opposite, because of someone, or some situation they have personally encountered. Making the subconscious decision to take on one of these traits based on past experiences is silly, and can be majorly damaging. For example: if your boyfriend/girlfriend cheats on you, and you forgive him/her and take them back, you cannot constantly hold him/her accountable. You cannot continuously mention the event, while dangling it over their heads, and reminding them of their mistake. This only leads to bigger issues such as: insecurity and a lower self worth.

While it may be difficult for some to recognize and eradicate, trust is the keystone of any successful relationship. Not only does it make for an excellent strengthening element, but it also increases happiness. The happiness felt when you and your significant other are together, will intensify dramatically once you both fully trust each other. And what could be better then sharing open trust and peaceful happiness, with the one you love?