Nice guys. All women know at least one man who they tell all their friends is “such a nice guy”. These women love Mr. Nice guy…like a brother! This is the guy who’s so pleasant to be around, so sexually non-threatening, that women automatically categorize him as a ‘friend’. This guy gets no play!
So what’s the deal with Mr. Nice Guy?
Answer; he has no ‘dog’ in him. It’s not like he doesn’t think about chasing cars, but he’s just too polite to do it. When a fast red corvette speeds by, he lets out an appreciative ‘woof’ instead of a full-fledged howl followed by some serious barking and hot pursuit. It’s cute, but doesn’t inspire a chase. Let’s face it, the cars aren’t going to come to him. So how can Mr. Nice Guy regain his bark?
He must learn to communicate his desire to be with a woman he’s attracted to. This happens in three areas; words, eye contact, and touch. I call this the WET method.
Words. Say a few sexually suggestive lines. I’m not talking about anything gross or over the line, but it’s okay to speak in clever double entendres that can be taken more than one way. Use key words that will automatically make her subconsciously think of sex like ‘The rain is great. It’s so wet outside.” When she says something heartfelt or profound, ask “How does that make you feel deep down inside?” When she’s being cute or funny say “You make it hard for me to resist you.”. (7 Innocent Dirty Words from Dan and Jennifer) None of these works well without eye contact.
Eye Contact. When speaking to a woman he’s attracted to, Mr. Nice guy needs to hold eye contact. While holding that eye contact, he must allow some of what he’s thinking (his attraction to/desire for that woman) to show in his eyes. They are the windows to the soul, after all. If he’s mentally undressing her, a little glance downward doesn’t hurt. It’s a universal sign of a man checking a woman out. Don’t be afraid to check her out! It can be done respectfully, and when done right, is a compliment, and not some lecherous peeping Tom activity. Just don't growl or drool while doing it.
Touch. Make a point to touch her. An innocent ‘accidental’ brush of your hand on her lower back when walking side by side insinuates possession without being inappropriate. If she’s wearing a necklace or bracelet, reach out to touch it while commenting that you like it, or asking where she got it. Casually pick an imaginary piece of lint off her shoulder or touch her hand when making a point in the conversation. These little innocuous bits of contact show a man’s interest in a woman. Without them, the guy is just that sweet, respectful, (oh, don’t say it…) nice guy!
Now, no woman wants the kind of dog who will chase every single car that comes along or hump every leg, but he’s got to at least show her some sign that he’s happy to see her. By following these tips, by 'getting WET', every dog will have his day!
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In addition to this local column, and her work as a Freelance Journalist in San Antonio, Michele Gwynn is also the National Animal Rights Examiner. Her love of pets began at an early age with a stray cat named Harvey, and a dying field mouse named Tucker. She is a pet parent to four cats, and an animal rights champion to all critters, large and small. Visit her animal rights column here.
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