In our crazy hectic lives we sometimes, or most times, forget about the most important thing in our lives, marriage. Your marriage is the example your kids will have when it comes time to choose their own husband or wife. They will either use you as an example of what they want their marriage to be or what they don't want their marriage to be. It's our job to show them what it should be. Even when you think they aren't listening or watching, they are! So how do you put your marriage first, it's not as hard as you think.
First and foremost, you ALWAYS ALWAYS kiss them good morning and goodnight even if you are mad. I don't necessarily believe in the old saying never go to bed angry, I have plenty of times, not even going to lie! Not only kiss them good morning and goodnight but tell them you love them, ALWAYS. What a difference you can make in your heart just by using those words and feeling their lips on yours. Second thing to always do is to tell them to have a good day when they leave for work. No matter how busy you get in the morning stop for two seconds give them a kiss good bye and tell them to have a good day. Most of us spend the rest of our day taking care of kids, managing the household, running errands or doing them all. One thing I always try to do is always be home before he is. I may not always be but 90% of the time I am. Why is that important? It's important because to me the most important time during our day is when he walks in the door from work. That's the best time of my day. Again, no matter what I am doing I stop, if it's washing dishes, cooking, cleaning or even mid punishment I stop and I say "hey babe" or just a "hi" and walk over to him and hug him. Maybe help him with his jacket or if his hands are full I take whatever is in them AFTER I SHOW HIM MY UPMOST ATTENTION. Then when he is settled in and on the couch or just relaxed and happy he is home always ask him how was his day and LISTEN. Actually care and engage! Don't start complaining of your day, never be moody toward him and NEVER ask him to start on chores as soon as he walks through the door. I know you had a busy and sometimes bad day but give him a little rest time. I try to have all the craziness finished by time he is home but I can't always accomplish that so then I go about our crazy day and let him do whatever he wants to do to relax for the time being. If he asks me if I need any help then I grab that honey do list from my pocket I have been filling out that day and tell him to do what he can. Then, be sure the kids are in bed an hour or two before you guys and have your quiet alone time. I stop ALL chores when the kids are in bed. They can wait, your husband shouldn't have to. After they are all settled and in bed then tell him about your day no matter how rough or good it may have been and when he wraps his arms around you, it's all better somehow.
It's so difficult to remember that your spouse is the most important thing in your life, other than God. Yes we all love our kids with all our hearts and they mean the world to us but you and your husband loved each other FIRST and you don't want to now put that last. If he needs you during the day, and you can always tell when he just needs YOU. Your time, your ear or your arms, you stop whatever it is, no matter how important you think it may be (it's not as important as him) and you show him you care and be there. We often get busy and forget just how much of a blessing marriage is and how hard finding that one person who will put up with you and love you unconditionally is.
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