Putting all your Easter eggs in one dating email basket sometimes means you lose all your eggs

Are all your eggs in one basket?

With Easter coming up in a few days, I'm really stuck on the eggs/basket metaphor. (No, not the eggs in your ovaries, ladies.)  I'm talking about your online dating eggs.

One of my dear friends is doing online dating in South Florida.  (Any ladies in their late 20s-early 30s want sweet and funny skydiver who has his own business fixing airplanes?  Let me know.)  He sends me an IM the other day saying that he found this really great girl and asking me to help him with his email to her.

"I've spent 2 hours writing this - she's so great and I want it to be perfect!"  (I'm telling you, ladies, he's a catch.)

He sends me a marathon email detailing everything in her profile that he liked and how he likes the same things.  It was adorable to me, but the problem was this... to a complete stranger, that email was going to come off as a little TOO eager.

I helped him trim it down to a manageable length and send it off to the girl.  They ended up going out for a coffee date but since then, it appears that their schedules just aren't going to line up for the long term.   He's a bit bummed, but these things happen.

(I tell him it's because she wasn't the right girl.  Obviously, you are, dear reader living between West Palm and Boca.  Ever jumped out of an airplane?  Got a streak of geek in you?  Want a guy who will treat you like the most beautiful girl in the world and keep you laughing?)

I see a lot of clients and friends who fixate on ONE "perfect" person and invest hours of times crafting a long and detailed email that either a) never gets read or b) gets deleted.   Then they're crushed, defeated, depressed. 

The key to online dating happiness is to keep things short and sweet.   Put your email eggs into several baskets.  Don't make an intricate painting that takes hours and hours to only have that egg chucked out a window.  Make a few simple, colorful eggs and put them in the baskets of those you like most.

By the way, if you want to put an egg in my friend's basket, shoot me an email.  I'll fill you in on his details.