"A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day."- Andre Maurois
Put your marriage first. You have an opportunity to have bliss and happiness this time around. This time your love and passion have to be big enough to embrace an entire family and more. In your new marriage you will begin with children and more children most often.
Many remarried couples get so busy with new roles, schedules, parenting and transitions that they do not make enough time to be alone as a couple.
Put your marriage first. Make time for emotional and physical intimacy with your partner. Your children will benefit when you put your relationship first. A strong marriage will provide security, love, and a model for their future relationships.
- Make it a priority to have alone time every day for at least an hour to increase your emotional and physical intimacy.
- Make it a priority to go out as a couple at least once a week, a "date night."
- Make it a priority to get away for an overnight or more several times a year.
Ideas for your time as a couple:
1. Get a couple's massage at local resort. If you can spend the night and make it a mini-vacation even better. The Montelucia has a beautiful property and the award winning, Joya Spa, www.joyaspa.com/services/spa_suites/ . The spa offers spa rooms that you can book for a half day or full day. They have a phenomenal Grand Palace Suite that has a luxurious king size bed, terrace and opens to a rooftop pool. The spa services are done in this suite.
2. Plan a day trip. A romantic and relaxing day trip is going to the Queen Creek Olive Mill. The owner has a fun story to share about he he started the family business, www.queencreekolivemill.com/about_us.jsp. The family offers many flavors of olive oil, including vanilla and there oil is used in many of Phoenix's finest restaurants. They offer a wine tasting on Saturdays, wonderful menus, a unique gift shop and a fabulous property for a couple to spend time enjoying.
3. Don't forget to create intimate moments at home as well. Romanticize your room with candles with pleasing scents, www.candleoutlet.com/candles.asp. Additionally, Lush in fashion Square mall, has an amazing selection of bath bombs, bath mets, scrubs and lotions to add to special moments www.lushusa.com/shop/products/bath-shower/bath-bombs.
The stronger you and your spouse are bonded, the more agile you will be as a couple to overcome obstacles and avoid problems with your children and from the outside world. Don't underestimate the strength you have when you are united in love and life as a couple.
Comments
The articles by Brigitte Wangberg are helpful advice for difficult situations, such as keeping marriage alive and blended families.
Bravo - my husband and I force ourselves to put our marriage first, despite the demands that everyday life, and his children from a previous marriage, put on us. In the past, the kids would attempt to "play" us off one another, but by displaying a united front, they have learned that this is ineffective. We both love the kids and our own individual lives dearly, but we work as a team in all things. A marriage is a partnership.
Thanks for explaining putting our partner's first. Sometimes people do not get this when talk about in regards to kids that have been through divorce. I agree that this is best for everyone in the family.
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