Skip to main content

Purity: unpopular but still possible

Purity is beautiful.
Purity is beautiful.
Photo by Jennifer Weber 2009

Where is it written that it is understood and assumed by society at large that people are required to have sex before they get married, or outside the bonds of marriage?

Is there a way to debunk the pervasive notion that there is no other course of behavior available to human beings?

Can we at least agree to NOT agree that kids are simply "going to do it" no matter what, and that "kids" now means people as young as seven years old, and not even someone who has reached puberty?

And can we agree that it is a bald-faced LIE that there is nothing anyone can do to prevent their children from giving up their purity as casually as one might hand over a fifty-cent coupon at the grocery store?

Is there a reason why, when it comes to sexual purity, so many adults are unwilling to tell it like it is?

To wit:

According to The New York Times, one-fourth of the white girls and one-half of the black girls in America aged 14-19 are infected with sexually transmitted diseases. Many of them have more than one STD. These are diseases they will carry with them throughout life and which will affect their relationships and the health of their children, and which in many cases will contribute to their own early death from illnesses such as cervical cancer.

The behavior that results in such dire infections also often produces children ... fifty million-plus of whom have been slaughtered since 1973, when women were supposedly "liberated" by the Supreme Court decision in historic Roe v. Wade.

If that's liberation, women and girls are better off accepting the "slavery" of boundaries designed to preserve both personal purity and the sanctity of human life.

The vast majority of the suffering being caused by STD's could be avoided if young women were taught and encouraged to abstain from illicit sexual activity, and if they were helped by responsible adults to adhere to that standard.

Granted: while the goal of remaining pure until marriage is certainly attainable, it is also highly idealistic.  Even so, it is important enough that if you do nothing else for your daughters (and sons, if you dare), teach them to abstain from engaging in sexual activity before marriage.

You don't have to approach the subject from a moral or -- Heaven forbid! -- faith-based standpoint if you aren't comfortable with that. Simply do it for her (and his) own health, welfare, and happiness.

(Although no apology should be made for believing -- and teaching children -- that, according to Scripture, we are "fearfully and wonderfully made" (Psalm 139:14) by our Creator. And that for the Christian, with acceptance of "so great salvation" comes great responsibility.)

Whatever your motivation, if you commit to this course for the sake of your children, prepare yourself to be inconvenienced by extreme peer pressure (provided by other young people and, sadly, even their parents) and the considerable rigors of supervising active adolescents.

When your children were babies you cared for their physical bodies and did whatever was necessary to protect them from illness and abuse. It is real devotion to continue that same loving watchfulness all the way to the altar.

It is sad but true that all sorts of bad things happen to people even when they've kept themselves for marriage and endeavored to make a good marriage. We are not perfect and we do not inhabit a perfect world.

More's the pity.

Also unfortunate is the fact that absolute truth -- particularly with a moral twist -- is rarely embraced or lauded by the masses.

So be it.

During a season that -- despite the retail ramifications, ubiquitous Santa folklore, and party-hearty emphasis attached -- exists for the sole purpose of celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ, we often think of Mary, the mother of Jesus.

Although born a sinner in need of salvation, Mary was a pure girl -- a virgin -- whose desire was toward the Lord. It was her purity of both body and heart -- choices she willingly made -- that ultimately led to the privilege of giving birth to her own Savior.

Mary waited until marriage to have sex.

Purity has never been less popular than today, but it is as essential as it was in the time of Mary and Joseph.


All Scripture quoted and referenced in this article is from the King James Bible.

Have you subscribed to Columbia Baptist Examiner yet? It's easy! There's a handy button up at the top. Go now and click it before you forget! Please.

And for my commentary on a variety of subjects -- some conservative political, some humorous, some simply diversionary -- go to I'm Having A Thought Here.


  • Erica 5 years ago

    Great article. Astounding statistics.

  • Susan 4 years ago

    Ironic that the Netflix ad that popped up when I got to your article was promoting Sex in the City.