In Psalm 139, the Psalmist (song writer) David, meditates on the fact that not only is God always with us, but that he knows our every thought and deed:
You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain."
One of a human beings greatest needs is to receive love and approval. At our weakest, we may make cheap plays to gain approval and affection, but that is not what we truly crave. What we want more than anything is to be fully known, and loved for who we really are.
Considering how desperately we long to be known, we invest ourselves heavily in hiding from each other. We do this because being rejected hurts, and to be rejected by one who truly knows us is the greatest rejection of all. We think: "If someone who really knows me rejects me, maybe I'm not worth knowing." So, we often act as if we do not care if others love or approve of us; or we reinvent ourselves in order to garner at least some level of acceptance, even if we have to sacrifice our soul (true self) to do it.
It is a rare person who has the self confidence to risk being transparent and letting the "chips fall where they may." Most people keep up at least some amount of an illusion, and given the fickleness of our fellow travelers, perhaps this is wise. Still, if we dare not risk allowing another person full access to our hearts and minds, how can we ever be truly loved for who we are?
Even if no other person on earth truly knows and loves us, God does both. While we can never really hide from God, because he knows and sees all, we may work at convincing ourselves he cannot see through our shield . In spite of all our games, he is still with us, waiting to embrace us once we finally accept that he loves us more than anyone else ever could and wants to heal our brokeness.
Points to ponder:
- I think most people have a desire to be fully known by someone, but that most of us fear it as well. Do you believe that? Do you desire it? Do you fear it? What are the problems and benefits of being fully known by someone?
- How does being fully known by God differ from being well known by a person or people? How does that impact your behavior?
- Has your reaction to being known by God and hemmed in by God changed over time? How?
Feel free to share your responses in the comments below!
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