Let's face it, dating can be a nightmare and everyone knows that, especially if you are over the age of 40. The upside is it can also be fun and amazing if you allow yourself to enjoy the experience.
I have heard it said many times that you have to "play the game" and until I was in the dating world again I totally disagreed with it. I didn't want any "games" I wanted to find a good man, a husband, a friend, someone to be with, but once I was back in the dating world and over 40 I got it!
No one truly wants to "play games" but that is exactly what dating is all about. The game of love! If you play it right you will win, if you don't you might get lucky but highly unlikely!
So what does one do to "win the game", that's easy and it's different for all of us, but if you present yourself well then you have a better chance of "winning."
Let's face it, we are all visual people. Looks DO matter and if you say they don't then you are one point down from winning the game. If you are not taking care of yourself, having your hair and nails done, taking care of your skin, your clothes, your finances, your body then you won't have a very good chance to win anything! So here are a few things that will help you to present the best YOU!
1) Emotional self care - Yes, your emotions are vital in winning the game. If you are not emotionally ready to date again then you need to take the time and find yourself emotionally. Ask yourself some questions like "am I really ready to date again?" What am I looking for in a new relationship?, What are my must have's and deal breakers? Now I am not saying to sit down a write a list because NO ONE can ever meet all the requirements on one's list. If you have a list that says things like "I want a man/woman who is honest, faithful, loyal, etc, etc. BURN THE LIST AND GET A DOG!
2) Be secure with yourself financially - No one male or female wants to be on a date to find out that you are losing your home, job, car, etc. This will only make them thing you are a loser or that you are desperate and want someone just for their money. Yes, true the economy is horrible right now for a lot of people and you may have just lost your job, home, car, etc BUT you do not have to advertise this on a date, in fact you don't have to disclose any of this until you are in a committed relationship. The person you are dating is NOT paying your bills so it is non of their business. If you don't know what to do to get yourself financially ready, then maybe it's time to take a look at your finances. I can show you how to make a 6 figure income very quickly. No it is NOT a get rich quick scheme, those do not work. This will take dedication, work and sacrifice but in the end it will be very worth it. Go to: www.overview.vi.com then contact email@example.com for more info. Change your finances, change your life!
3) Physical self care - So many women have asked me why I tell them that they need to color their hair or do their nails or lose weight. Well, the truth is you (especially if your over 40) are up against those 20 something year olds who have never had kids, who's bodies haven't been abused with years of poor nutrition, lack of exercise, etc. If you truly want to WIN at the game of dating to find the relationship you desire then you MUST take care of yourself. Telling yourself, oh I don't need to worry about this because I want to find someone who loves me for me! You just keep telling yourself that nonsense and see how far it truly gets you! As I said above, we are visual people and you MUST present the best visual YOU that you can. Being physically attractive is vital to success. Sadly this is not only true in dating but in life in general.
4) How to be physically attractive - Coloring your hair, having your nails manicured, toes done, skin tan, teeth cleaned and bleached, etc is just part of good self care. But there is one thing that is the most important thing of all in your arsenal to win the game of dating. FITNESS & NUTRITION
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Happy Dating and I hope you take advantage of the incredible financial opportunity and nutrition opportunities that have been mentioned here. They will truly change your life!
Till next time,