There are pros and cons to being a preacher’s kid. Not all preachers’ homes represent the perfect family unit. In fact, due to the ministerial calling of the parents, times can get rough and tough. Spiritual battles can be brutal and as always, external pressures from the church and the secular world can be taxing. On the other hand, preacher’s kids can be the wisest and most spiritually advanced leaders in the church. Many variables affect the outcome and only God knows which way they will go.
Let’s face it, families of preachers live by a higher standard, it’s an expectation. They are supposed to represent the leadership and qualities of the pastor himself. Yet, this is not always the case. Often times, the children go astray and lead a rebellious life. They may even be deemed the worst members of the church or the worst kids in church. It’s a wonder more Christians don’t take the time to discover why this may occur.
Does the church want to have something to gossip about to rest of the laymen? Do we want to continue juicy phone conversations about what the third born did that’s different from the first born? Maybe our pastor’s family is so intriguing that we have left our knees and shut our bibles in hopes of something to talk about.
Some preachers' kids live with the harsh reality of hypocritical parents. Though, they may be in the ministry, their home lives don’t always reflect what the church sees. Leading a double life is one of the most damaging things children face. Ministers feel the pressure of living a perfect life; having the perfect family. Trying to live up to the pressure is the very cause of many family break-ups, because no family is perfect. No child is perfect either. We are all in need of God’s grace and strength and even more so those of us in higher callings with greater responsibilities. So, why do we pretend that this is not the case?
In an article titled Preachers’ Kids from the online Enrichment Journal, Bill Carmichael wrote, "An effective growing church is more like a spiritual hospital." Preachers can’t afford to bring the "dirty linen" home. Those who deliver the Word of God and minister to others must shed off dead weight and renew themselves in prayer as often as needed, because children can pick up the frustration and the baggage left by others. The family’s spiritual health is crucial to development.
If the pastor comes home complaining of lazy members and dysfunctional auxiliaries it will most surely effect the family emotions and spiritual growth and development. This is not to say that one cannot learn how to appropriately address critical situations by actively listening, but problems and discussions that occur with no intent for reconciliation are simply burdens.
Churches everywhere will see spiritual growth when the focus is taken off the pastor and his family and placed upon a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. How can we get the mote out of our brother’s eye, when there is a beam in our own? It may be time for some much needed knee-ology!