Being a single parent is not always easy. Raising children by yourself can be challenging and at time tiring. It is easy to become consumed with raising and doing for your children that you do not go through your own grieving process of your relationship. Sometimes it seems easier to keep busy than it does to experience the pain of a relationship that has ended. For some, essentially it is a death of a dream, a dream that involves having your whole family together.
Some women grow up expecting to meet their prince charming, to have a family, dog and the white picket fence. When this dream does not always happen in this way or comes to an end, it can be difficult to handle. Being surrounded by couples all the time can be a constant reminder of a failed relationship. For some, this will lead them to become depressed. However, it is important to remember that while some couples are happily married, some know how to appear happy in public however may not be as happy behind closed doors.
Rather than focusing on what you did have, wish you had, or want, focus on what you do have. You have beautiful children who adore you. You are doing your very best as a parent. Many of you are working one or more jobs to support your family. You are also teaching, nurturing, and encouraging your children. On the days that you get down or discouraged, think about all the memories and experiences you are having with your children. Keep special moments with your children in the forefront of your mind. If you do this enough, it will keep the negative thoughts away. Also, keeping a grateful journal may be helpful.
Remember, perceptions are not always what they seem. Rather than getting caught up in what others have, focus on what you do have. Focus on bringing more positive thoughts and experiences in your life. You will see how your life becomes even more fulfilled. Be encouraged.
