As parents, we are always trying to find ways to be more effective. For this week's article, I went to the real experts for advice...the kids themselves.
Here is some thoughtful wisdom and guidance-out of the mouths of babes, so to speak:
"Take your kids to the park or if they are old enough, let them go to the park by themselves." Dane, Age 6
"Be patient. It may take more than one time telling a kid something before she understands. Then, if it's safe, let kids experience the natural consequences of their choices." Shay, Age 11
" Be kind of strict and kind of nice. Don't let your kids have candy whenever they want and don't let them go to a friends house when they haven't finished their homework. When they finish their homework and errands, let them have 20 minutes of free time." Mia, Age 9
This advice may seem simple, but when we look a little deeper, we can read much into what our kids want and need from us. From these 3 basic comments, we can see that kids need more time in nature.We learn that parents can assume that kids understand what's being asked of them, when so often, they don't understand at all. Clear communication takes patience and skill. Finally, we can plainly see that kids want, need and expect parents to be in charge and to set reasonable limits.
Try this exercise with your kids. Ask them what makes a good parent. You are likely to be given some amazing insights into how to become a more supportive partner and gain new tools to create peace and harmony in the family.