Over ten thousand engaged couples from around the world celebrated St. Valentine's Day by meeting with Pope Francis in St. Peter’s Square. The theme of the event was “The joy of ‘Yes’ forever.” According to Vatican Radio, the event was organized by the Pontifical Council for the Family which focuses on the idea that one marries in order to face problems together, concluding that marriage takes courage, but ‘forever’ is a prospect that brings joy and allows us to look at the future with hope.
Beginning at 11 A.M., testimonies were heard from couples along with readings and songs dedicated to love. At 12:30 Pope Francis greeted the couples, commenting on three issues put forward by the couples; The fear of forever, living together and the matrimonial way of life and the type of matrimonial celebration.
Pope Francis said “It is important to ask ourselves of it is possible to love one another forever. Today, many people are afraid of making definite decisions that effect them for all their lives, because it seems impossible...and this mentality leads many who are preparing for marriage to say “We will stay together for as long as our love lasts”. But what do we mean by “love”? A mere emotion, a psycho-physical state? Certainly if it is just this, it cannot provide the foundation for building something solid. But if instead love is a relationship, then it is a growing reality, and we can also say by way of example, that is built in the same way that we build a house. And we build a house together...not alone! You would not wish to build it on the shifting sands of emotions, but on the rock of true love, the love that comes from God. The family is born of this project of love that wishes to grow as one builds a house, that becomes the focus of affection, help, hope and support. Just as God’s love is stable and lasts forever, we want the love on which a family is based to be stable and last forever. We must not allow ourselves to conquered by a “throwaway culture”. The fear of forever is cured by entrusting oneself day by day to the Lord Jesus in a life that becomes a daily spiritual path of common growth, step by step. Because forever is not simply a question of duration! A marriage does not succeed just because it lasts; its quality is also important. To stay together and to know how to love each other forever is the challenge Christian married couples face! In the Our Father prayer we say, ‘Give us this day our daily bread’. Married couples may also learn to pray, ‘Give us this day our daily love’, teach us to love each other, to care for each other. The more you entrust yourselves to the Lord, the more your love will be ‘forever’, able to renew itself and overcome every difficulty”.
Answering the second question about living together, Pope Francis responded, “Living together is an art, a patient, beautiful and fascinating journey which can be summarized in three words; please, thank you and sorry.” Pope Francis continued, “Please is a request to enter into someone’s life with respect and care. True love does not impose itself with hardness and aggression. St. Francis added, “ 'Courtesy is the sister of charity, it extinguishes hatred and kindles love'. And today, in our families, in our world, often violent and arrogant, there is a need for far more courtesy. 'Thank you': gratitude is an important sentiment. Do we know how to say thank you? In your relationship, and in your future as married couples, it is important to keep alive your awareness that the other person is a gift from God, and we should always give thanks for gifts from God. … It is not merely a kind word to use with strangers, in order to be polite. It is necessary to know how to say thank you, to journey ahead together”.
Pope Francis continued, “'Sorry'. In our lives we make many errors, many mistakes. We all do. … And this is why we need to be able to use this simple word, 'sorry'. In general we are all ready to accuse others and to justify ourselves. It is an instinct that lies at the origins of many disasters. Let us learn to recognize our mistakes and to apologize. Also in this way, the Christian family grows. We are all aware that the perfect family does not exist, nor does the perfect husband, nor the perfect wife. We exist, and we are sinners. Jesus, who knows us well, teaches us a secret: never let a day go by without asking forgiveness, or without restoring peace to your home. … If we learn to apologize and to forgive each other, the marriage will last and will move on”.
Finally, the Holy Father commented that marriage should be a celebration, but a Christian celebration rather than a worldly one. He offered as an example Jesus' first miracle at Cana, when he transformed water into wine when the latter appeared to have run out, thus saving the celebrations. “What happened at Cana two thousand years ago, happens in reality at every wedding feast. It is the presence of the Lord, who reveals Himself and the gift of His grace, that will render your marriage full and profoundly true. … At the same time, it is good for your wedding to be sober and to emphasize that which is truly important. Some people are more concerned with external signs, with the banquet, the dress... These are important aspects of a feast, but only if they are able to indicate the true reason for your joy: the Lord's blessing upon your love. Ensure that, like the wine in Cana, the external signs of your wedding feast reveal the presence of the Lord and remind you, and all those presence, of the origin of and reason for your joy”.