Any given day in the nation’s capital, you will find couples enjoying the many sites this city has to offer. As you stroll along the National Mall, you won’t get far before you see couples holding hands, enjoying a picnic, or a bike ride together. To the naked eye, one would assume these couples are in loving and committed relationships; however, most couples in D.C. lack commitment…and well, the love can be one-sided. Nevertheless, the perks that are typically only associated with committed relationships, oddly, still run rampant.
The properly coined term for this non-sense is pseudo-relationship- completely playing the role of committed partner, yet lacking the title and the vital commitment from one another. And while this phenomenon transcends race, it seems to be more prominent among educated African-Americans in the D.C. area. Now let’s be clear, a man or woman can easily fall prey to someone that is “not ready for a relationship” yet monopolizes your time and your heart, and thus your ability to be free to meet someone that is ready.
While it is easy to fall into in these pseudo-relationships, and a few months can pass before you even realize you are in one, once you come to that realization you are no longer a victim, but now a perpetuator of this ongoing insanity. Once you are beyond the getting-to-know-you phase and into the “I love you,” holding hands in public, and cooking for one another stage then a decision must be made by both parties to either move to the next level or part ways. Who wants to be classified as a kindergartener yet doing the work of a college student? Then why would you allow that misclassification to occur in your relationships?
Mikal Ankrah, a Washingtonian bachelor, stated, “When I'm ready to commit to a woman, I will also be ready to make the necessary sacrifices. Living in DC, where there are plenty of attractive, single, willing women that would be a distraction I have to overcome.” This simply affirms that when the right person comes along, sacrifices will be made to keep that person in the desired role. If the desired commitment to you scares them off, well, maybe it is a sign to move on without them. It is not like you had a title anyway…
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