Is your marriage healthy and fun?
How do you view your Marriage? Is your marriage fun, healthy, and a joy to you? It should be, and it can be. It's easy to get a very negative view of marriage if you read certain articles, listen to certain marriage jokes, comedians, celebrities., etc. It can be easy to forget that marriage can and should be fun.
Most couples are happy when they are dating and even when they first get married. They are in love and they love spending time together. They love talking to each other and love the sound of the other's voice, etc. Also, usually during this time they are both actively trying to make the other person happy. So what happens after marriage? Life happens.
Work to keep your marriage happy and healthy
After marriage you have to work to keep a happy, healthy marriage. It doesn't just happen automatically. Most people are so busy these days that you have to make sure that your relationship stays a priority. You have work, family, friends, maybe religious activities or church, hobbies, etc. It is very important that you make your marriage your top priority and make time to spend together alone. To do this may require saying no to other things if you're just too busy, but it will be worth it.
Everything works better when your closest relationship , your marriage stays happy and healthy. Working is easier when you don't have the added stress of a stressful marriage. Your kids will be happier knowing that their parents have a happy and stable marriage, etc. This is not to say that there won't be misunderstandings etc, every married couple has those. However you can learn to deal with the misunderstandings in a better way. For example, make sure to stay on the topic, don't bring up the past, try to deal with issues as they come up, don't call names or attack the character of your spouse etc.
Make your marriage a priority
If you can try to make a date night once a week, or at least as much as you can, but make sure this is a priority for you. Date nights can definitely help keep your marriage happy and healthy. And it doesn't even have to be expensive. Just do something that you both enjoy and will help you to both feel close to each other. This could be something as simple as sitting down and having coffee together, talking, holding each other, etc. If you can't get a babysitter, and your kids are younger you can spend this time together after they're in bed.
So, make your marriage a priority. Have fun together, laugh. together, and make spending time together important. Your marriage can be your greatest source of joy, happiness, stability, etc. if you work at it. And when you work at it and receive the benefits of having that healthy relationship, it probably won't seem that much like work after all!