Among important elements of great relationships, pillow talk is probably near or top of anyone’s list. It’s a way to unwind after a hectic day. Patients who’ve been divorced or widowed have told us that of all the things they missed most, pillow talk was near the top of their list. Pillow talk is that special time when you are in bed with the person you love in the intimate setting of your private room. Pillow talk may be before or after making love and it doesn’t have to involve sex at all. For some it might be a review of their day, for others it may be joking and kidding, yet for others it may be suggestive, innuendo even profanity and “dirty” talk; whatever turns you on and sets the mood. The one thing pillow talk should not include is topics that can be upsetting. Avoid financial matters and problems that you’ll not be able to solve in bed. On the other hand making plans for pleasant occasions or to plan a trip could be ideal.
An open and loving communication with your partner in the intimacy of your bed is to be treasured. It is extremely important to take the time even if late; the nurturing of pillow talk will make a loving relationships last longer and happier. It will most likely result in better foreplay and sex. Couples who talk in bed have a happier relationship in general.
During pillow talk sex may still be on the agenda, but pillow talk is not just about sex, it’s more about love. If you touch, cuddle and stroke even a kiss during pillow talk, that’s fine but don’t do it in such a way that your lover thinks that’s all you’re thinking about. It’s a time to let your partner know of your love, not your lust!
For more on this topic read, "FOREPLAY - the real focus of great sex," & "Sex in the Golden Years - the best sex ever." www.boomerbookseries.com