My husband has a friend, a single guy. We all know the type: quiet, reserved, not too tall, not too short, conversational skills are average as is his appearance. Nice. As in the staid nice, not the warm-and-fuzzy-gives-great-hugs nice. This particular fellow is approaching middle age, and really wants to get married. Hooray! Another man who seeks commitment...but wait, there’s a catch. He also wants a beauty: a woman with silken hair and svelte physique, a knockout with ripe ovaries and a dazzling personality to boot. Please don’t think I am being mean when I ask: anyone see the discrepancy here?
This is what I call dating outside of your pie slice. Twice we’ve introduced him to women within his ‘segment’ if you will, and twice he’s rejected them as not his type. I’ve seen him approach the prettiest girls at parties, only to be repeatedly ignored. The pickle jar he’s put himself in is tight, because he has something more than nice to offer but refuses to reveal it to potential partners. Please don’t think I’m being shallow when I say this: he’s rich. Really rich, as in has a trust fund and doesn’t need to work rich.
The last time he hinted at wanting me to make a shiduch (Yiddish for love match) I suggested the millionaire matchmaker. He said no to that as well. He really is a nice guy, and will make a fine husband one day. He either has to look in his pie slice, or buy himself access to the one he wants. I hope he goes for the former.
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I feel sorry for him and am disgusted by his shallowness at the same time. He needs to take a closer look at why he is looking for the young, hot chick that is way out of his league. At the end of the day, even if he did find someone hot to go out with him, it probably still wouldn't make him happy. He should reconsider your advice and go on the "Millionaire Matchmaker." Patty would surely put him in his place.
Your husband's friend obviously sees his piece of the pie as different and/or larger than you do. My thought? He knows something you don't about what is right for him. And who is to say he's wrong? Personally, I admire him for sticking to what he belives in, and for not wanting to buy a partner. Kudos to him.
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