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Parents: Do you know your children's teachers? Really?

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Apparently, a school in Mesa, Arizona did not know who they were exposing little kindergarten children to in the person of Thomas Washburn, age 54, who taught at Adams Elementary School in that area.

He was recently arrested for stripping the shirt off a little five-year old girl’s body and forcing her to stand naked from the waist up for about ten minutes.

She had become frighten and pulled her shirt up to hide her face – so typical of a small child. They sometimes think if they can’t see you, then you can’t see them either.

The parents of this child told police that she had been premature and “developmentally delayed.”

When this man – who I will not call a teacher – asked her several times to pull her shirt down; and when she did not comply because of fear, he then ripped her shirt completely off.

She covered her face originally because the teacher was shouting at the children and she became very afraid.

After being put on administrative leave and arrested, it was reported that he is facing twenty-six charges; one for each of the children in the class. It was also reported that he had an interest in becoming a foster parent.

You can read more here as reported by Channel 8 News – Las Vegas.

Every morning millions of children head off to school to be under the leadership and guidance of individuals who are supposed to be of high moral integrity, well educated in their field, fully accredited according to the mandates of the local and state school boards.

However, sadly there are teachers who are teaching (and influencing our children in many ways), who would be better off working in a pie factory. They would receive a paycheck if that is all they are looking for.

Teaching is a noble profession. But it should not be just a profession; but a calling. It would not take a concerned parent very long to figure out which their teachers have.

Before there were public schools in this nation, children were tutored at home, if their parents could afford it. Today there are more and more parents choosing this option for their children.

It was not until the mid-1840’s that schools began to open in small areas throughout the nation. In the 1850 census here in Georgia, they were called "poor schools!" My great-great grandfather attended such a school and the fee was fifty cents.

Many parents today are returning to the option of home schooling and other opting for private/religious schools.

Public schools have had a tremendous impact by providing a good education in the past; however, all that glitters is not gold.

There are stories of evil school masters with whipping sticks and barbaric teaching methods – those should be a thing of the past in today’s modern world. But they aren’t - because children have been duct taped into their seats, hands tied, mouths taped, and other horrible punishments in recent times; such as what just happened to this little Kindergarten child.

Our children are becoming paranoid, and fearful and emotionally bruised by people who have had the audacity to call themselves a teacher. Some come through unscathed; but many do not.

The drops out rates in schools are unacceptable. By the time children reach their teens, some of them see the handwriting on the wall. They become discouraged and feel like failures and think they can make it better by living on the streets.

At an age where they should be peaking; they are discouraged and give up.

Teaching is not for sissies. Teaching is a difficult job at best. America has some of the finest. Too bad we hear so little about those who spend their lives actually teaching, nurturing, and caring about their students. God bless them everyone.

How many of us stop and give credit to those who are truly called into the teaching profession; those who make a positive impact on the lives of their students?

I was educated in the public school system. And I had children in school from kindergarten through college for a total of twenty-four years. I gained a lot of insight into teachers and principals.

First thing I learned is that you cannot just sit back and turn your children over to people who have such great influence on them. You have to be involved and keep tabs on them yourself. We have become a society of “let someone else do it!” It seems however that "someone" is never around.

It is appalling that some parents never even meet the teacher of their children; much less learn anything about them personally. Too much trust (or lack of caring) can be detrimental for the overall development of a child.

The government will never care for your children like you can and should.

However, this does not fall completely upon the shoulders of the parents – since the 1960’s is has been the goal of the NEA to gradually dissolve parent-teacher associations and encourage little involvement from parents in the lives of their own children.

When the federal government took over the local school system and placed more emphasis on achievement and high test scores, the true education of children failed. Schools were intended to teach the children much more than subjects that would make them good candidates for high employment; and thus bigger taxpayers. Trying to complete with other countries according to test grades has lessen the true overall teaching of individual students.

Many children are being harmed by the rules and regulations of government run schools that do not teach them the basic skills and tools for living.

Most schools no longer teach trades and/or skills and they have eliminated recess which is needed to relieve stress.

They dictate to every family how they must raise their children, what they can wear, and what they eat for lunch. It seems when parents don’t care in specific areas, the government steps in and takes over.

While taxes continue to go up - the quality of education has gone down. There was a time when you registered your children for school; you paid a small fee that was called a “seat” ticket. Also you purchased, at any store, a package for a few dollars which held all the required supplies the child would need for that year – age appropriate – and for that child.

These packages included paper, pencils, crayons, drawing paper, and such. Today it costs a small fortune for families to buy the huge long list of supplies to be sent to the class to be used collectively.

When the schools were totally under the auspices of the local people and school boards, our children got better all around educations.

Not all kids are suited for college and should be offered classes in trades that can help them – girls should still have home economics classes. Since they stop teaching basic skills for living, just take a look at some homes today.

What to do? Meet your teacher, interview your teacher, get to know your teacher – ask your children about what goes on in the classroom – interact with the classroom as much as possible.

Be there on special days to support your children. With today’s modern technology, it is easy search background checks on just about anyone.

When you child tells you something – follow up on it – it will do one of two things – keep them truthful – or keep you informed of a possible situation that could be halted.

Below are some good questions to ask your teacher. Don’t have time – don’t care – hmmmm. Therein is a lot of the problem. You should not be embarrassed to find out who is molding the lives of your children.

In early school years, invite the teacher to lunch or dinner sometime during the year – get to know them on a personal level.

Below find twenty questions you should ask your child’s teacher during a conference or whenever you have a question or concern.

You can go to this website for suggestions after each question:

Let the teacher know your child.

  • May I Tell You About My Child?
  • May I Tell You About What's Going on at Home?
  • How Is My Child Doing Socially?
  • How Is My Child Doing Emotionally?
  • In What Areas Does My Child Need Improvement?
  • What Do You Think My Child Is Particularly Good At?

Academics:

  • Is My Child Performing on Grade Level?
  • What Do These Assessment Results Really Mean?
  • Is My Child Doing His Best?
  • Does My Child Need Extra Help in Any Areas?
  • What Can We Do to Provide That Extra Help?

Special Needs:

  • If your child has special needs, ask need-specific questions.
  • Have You Read the IEP?
  • What Accommodations Are Being Made for My Child?
  • What Is the School's Process for Dealing With Special Needs?

Tricky Situations

  • If your child is having problems in school or with the teacher, address them head-on.

Share your concerns:

If you're worried about a situation at school, bring it up with the teacher.

  • Can You Fill Me in on This Situation?
  • Can You Tell Me About Your Teaching Method?
  • Do You Have Any Advice?

General Information - End the conference with these useful queries.

  • How Can I Help?
  • How Can I Contact You?

Many times in today’s culture both parents work and they should also take equal responsibility for their children. Perhaps parents could alternate in meeting with the teacher.

Often parents think they do not have time to be involved and feel it is the teacher’s responsibility to be in charge of the kids while in school. A parent should never relinquish their parental authority over to anyone else.

Busy parents can still find time for their children by looking for things in their lives that usurps their time but is fruitless.

Consider how much time you spend on things like entertainment, social media responses, making self photos, texting, and getting involved in everyone else’s life but your children's.

Make time every week to sit down with each individual child and chat with them about things going on in their lives. Kids that get turned away (or when parents do not spend time with them) begin to think of themselves as unworthy.

Below are suggestions parents can do to improve their own learning.

  • 1. Educate yourself on various and interesting subjects.
  • 2. Volunteer for worthy projects.
  • 3. Get involved in community activities.
  • 4. Give your children as much time as a day permits – they should be your focus and not all your friends on social media who you have never even met.

Often parents do not take the time for their children to apprise themselves of things going on in their lives; and yet when something goes wrong, they are quick to head to the attorney to file a law suit. That is like shutting the door after the cow is out of the barn. Put children first. ~~~

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