Parents are the first educators that a child encounters. There must always be a partnership between parents and the school. The old African Proverb is more relevant today, “It takes a village to raise a child.” In today’s world, we are missing the village. Children learn the life they live. In January, 1998, Rachel Harris and Dorothy Law Nolte wrote a book entitled, “Children Learn What They Live.” Dr. Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D. wrote a poem in 1972. The message is very compelling and convincing, even today.
Children Learn What They Live
by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
- If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
- If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
- If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
- If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
- If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
- If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
- If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
- If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
- If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
- If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
- If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
- If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
- If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
- If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
- If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
- If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
- If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
- If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
- If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
As a parent, there is no time off and vacation time is very limited. There are no license requirements and no pre or post test to past to be a parent, unfortunately. Many parents raise their children like they were raised, which may be the problem for many in today’s world. There are no report cards for parents and no remedial classes for bad parenting. School districts need to develop a parenting report card that parents receive each six or nine weeks, just like students. Teachers are evaluated every year and parents should be evaluated as well. Our educational system, needs an overhaul and the village, should be evaluated. www.parenting.com/child/behavior. Children first.
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” -Benjamin Spock
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