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Paltrow’s ‘conscious uncoupling’ after 10 years of ‘conscious coupling’

Gwyneth Paltrow attends Hollywood Stands Up To Cancer Event with contributors American Cancer Society and Bristol Myers Squibb on 1/28/14.
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Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are divorcing. They are going their separate ways. Paltrow announced the unfortunate news in her journal/blog within Goop (a digital media and e-commerce company) on Mar. 25. She tactfully avoided the terminal word ‘divorce’ by using the term given to her by Dr. Habib Sadeghi and Dr. Sherry Sami called “conscious uncoupling.”

The actress and singer/songwriter are “conscious uncoupling” after 10 years of marriage. They were married in 2003, or rather ‘conscious coupling’ since 2003.

What is ‘conscious coupling?’ According to Sadeghi and Sami, the definition of ‘conscious coupling’ is …

A conscious uncoupling is the ability to understand that every irritation and argument was a signal to look inside ourselves and identify a negative internal object that needed healing. Because present events always trigger pain from a past event, it’s never the current situation that needs the real fixing. It’s just the echo of an older emotional injury. If we can remain conscious of this during our uncoupling, we will understand it’s how we relate to ourselves internally as we go through an experience that’s the real issue, not what’s actually happening. Source

The media is mocking Paltrow’s means of announcing her divorce by calling it a ‘conscious uncoupling’ which is belittling the actual event. Divorce is no laughing matter for anyone, including celebrities.

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), most individuals marry before age 50 and healthy marriages contribute to the mental and physical health of partners. However, up to 50% of marriages end in divorce with the rates being higher for subsequent marriages (re-marriages).

Whatever it is called, awareness (conscious) and autonomy (uncoupling) is still divorce and it is an unfortunate event for Paltrow and Martin.

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