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Overturn a boring sex life: Tips for rekindling the spark

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This week on the Sex Talk Show, we read a message from Silvi, in Jackson, MI. She writes, “I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year, and even though we are pretty close, things seem to have fizzled out sexually. What can I do to fix this?”

Well, let me start out by assuring everyone that this is completely normal. At the beginning of a relationship, hormones are going crazy, and a new couple can’t seem to get enough of each other. But as time goes on those hormones settle down and things don’t feel quite as urgent as they used to. Now, this doesn’t mean that you don’t love each other, or even that you are not attracted to him anymore; it just means that you have reached a new level of intimacy in your relationship, and that’s actually a good thing.

But for couples who really want to spice things up a little bit, there are tricks to break out of the boring bedroom routine. Couples can try exploring each other’s fantasies, integrate new sex toys into the sexual repertoire, try new positions, take sex out of the bedroom, or for couples stuck on that Tuesday night boring sex, switch it up with a Monday morning quickie in the shower. Do whatever needs to be done to change things up. Occasionally, we fall into sexual patterns, and we feel like we almost can’t change things. But, with a little creativity and ingenuity, most people can bring a little sizzle back into their relationships. This will help improve both your sex life and your romance in the long run. So good luck, and have fun!



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